Hot temper and lack of self-control deliver many unpleasant moments in life. Therefore, such a quality as patience is necessary. Some are endowed with it from birth, due to their phlegmatic temperament, parents instilled patience and endurance in someone. But if you feel like you are missing him, it is worth working on raising him.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, patience is necessary in relationships with people, because they are very often the cause of emotional breakdowns. If you know in advance why you are losing control of yourself, then prepare emotionally for the event, even before it happened. If you are determined to overcome the difficulty, then you should have enough endurance and patience to resist the irritant.
Step 2
When you feel that you are under a lot of "pressure" and you are about to lose your temper, remember that it is very important to withstand such pressure in the first minutes, so try to maintain peace of mind. Take a few deep breaths, count to ten or even a hundred, take time out of your conversation, and get out into the fresh air. Think about what your impatience and lack of self-control might lead to.
Step 3
Sometimes the reason for the lack of understanding between you and the interlocutor may be your inability to listen patiently. You think you have understood everything he wanted to say, even though he hasn’t had time to say it yet. This is your mistake. Try to force yourself to listen to the person to the end, without interrupting or distracting.
Step 4
Not all people know how to think quickly. Don't be annoyed if you need to explain something to them. Try to understand people, treat them with respect and condescension. Look at the situation through their eyes.
Step 5
Divide your big goal into several phases. You will achieve it if you systematically perform them one by one. Every day, define a task for yourself and try to fulfill it, no matter what.
Step 6
Formulate your goal on paper and keep it in front of you at all times, think about how you can achieve it.
Step 7
Do not give up if you fail at first. Don't get discouraged and don't think badly about yourself or others. Just try to repeat what you did one more time. Don't stop while your goal is interesting to you. If you want to achieve it, you will.
Step 8
Remember that any business should be brought not only to the end, but also to perfection. Stop and look at what you are doing from the outside, the way you would evaluate someone else's work - without indulgences and indulgences.
Step 9
Learn to wait without trying to get ahead of the events, without worrying or painting in front of you pictures of how your dreams will come true, and your patience will be rewarded.
