Disappointments are an inevitable part of our life, but the pain inflicted by the closest people is experienced too sharply. What are the reasons why a relationship is going to hell?
1. Life in constant negativity
It so happens that problems fall on a person like snow on his head, and he turns out to be unable to fight and just breaks down. As a result, the problems are solved, and the life situation is restored, and the person is still broken and unable to return to the previous optimistic path.
This state of affairs is very dangerous for a relationship. A partner has to not only try to cheer up and instill a fighting spirit in his "half", but also maintain his attitude and clarity of thinking. As a result, the partner is emotionally devastated. But this is not the most dangerous thing.
A negative attitude towards life can be a sign of depression. And depression itself is not as terrible as undermining the sexual basis of relationships and the loss of partners' attraction to each other. Sometimes depression is even useful when one of the lovers helps the other to get out of it; it is much more frightening when the physical desire for intimacy is conveyed. That is why betrayal is so terrible. It undermines not only trust, but also sexual attraction to each other.
2. Emotional detachment
When partners suddenly begin to behave differently, no longer seek to spend time together or simply find out how each other is doing, this is explained by the loss of interest in each other as individuals. It's like in that old story: "They got along because they were very similar, and broke up because they were too different." If at the beginning of a relationship, when people want to be together, they erase differences and look for similarities, then before parting, on the contrary, they find too many different features and simply do not see the point in maintaining a relationship without a future. This behavior can be a sign of passive aggression. As a rule, a person acts out a scenario according to which in childhood he left the zone of influence of his parents. On a subconscious level, he perceives the influence that the partner has on him as destructive and overwhelming, and tries to get rid of it. Moreover, for someone who is avoided, it can be unexpected and painful to face such coldness and indifference of a loved one.
3. Dissatisfaction with a partner
Constant caustic jokes or outspoken remarks about your partner are not conducive to the development of healthy, strong relationships. Psychologists associate this behavior with a loss of respect. Living with the feeling that your partner is constantly unhappy with you is very difficult. But it is even harder for the one who criticizes. He understands that such a relationship will not bring him satisfaction, but he cannot openly admit it. As a result, he simply harasses a loved one, and he leaves on his own. Constant criticism is the most dangerous thing that can destroy even the strongest relationships.
How to deal with this?
Often, a "normal" partner is ready to endure for a long time and justify his counterpart with difficult life circumstances, attributing other excellent qualities to him as opposed to indifference, coldness and constant discontent. But such a relationship is doomed if the second partner is not interested in correcting the situation and does not meet you halfway. Try to talk to your partner about it and find out. So you at least for yourself will understand what to expect and what to be ready for.
Even if such a relationship ends in a breakup, it makes sense to contact a specialist in order to disassemble the played out scenario of the relationship and take measures to avoid a repetition of this.
