Hardly anyone wants to spoil their lives deliberately, but very often this happens. Of course, there is a choice that you make yourself, and no one has the right to interfere with it. But how often do you think that your beliefs can completely devalue you, nullify all your efforts and ruin your life?
There are many tips in case you really decide to live worse than you want, feel discomfort, spoil your mood from scratch and enjoy your own depreciation.
Some people quite often adhere to beliefs: "it could have become much worse", "in fact, everything is not so bad", "choose the lesser of two evils", which become their mottos for life. It is these thoughts that lead to the fact that you start looking for what is really "not so bad", while ceasing to notice the best that life presents.
Remember how often you eat what you don’t want, go where your feet don’t lead, meet people you don’t want to see at all. After all, if you are looking for something "average", then you get what you want, and not what you dreamed of. And you don't need to make any special efforts for this.
You can completely devalue your dream if you start to think that whatever you could get was not for you, or "you weren't rich, you shouldn't start." Some believe that if there have never been happy, successful, independent people in their environment, then this cannot be at all. Those who would like to make a lot of money are able to limit themselves to such an attitude as "the rich are all thieves."
Someone stops dreaming, believing that all these are fairy tales for children or that “you also need to be able to dream, but I cannot do that, and I don’t want to.” And for some, the fulfillment of desires is a change in life for which a person is not really ready, so it is better to leave everything as it is, and continue to envy others, without doing anything for your own happiness.
Someone is able to spoil his life, finding flaws in himself: I am too fat / thin, my face is not beautiful / too beautiful, my hair is not so long / short, I am too young / old, I have no right to my desires and other. All of these beliefs very quickly devalue anyone who believes in them. As a result, interest in life will soon completely disappear and the person will be bogged down in the daily routine.
You can spoil your life with great success if you start to adhere to the rule "like everyone else." This belief does not arise immediately. At first, you will resist and look for a way out, and then, looking back at your surroundings, you will suddenly begin to agree that living “like everyone else” is normal. Everyone eats this food - and I will. Everyone is going to rest abroad - and I will go. Everyone gets married - and I will. On the one hand, everything is fine, but on the other hand, it turns out that your life is not in you, and it, unfortunately, will end sooner or later. Your chances are decreasing every year, and as a result you get "everything like everyone else", but for some reason this is not pleasing and does not cause self-respect.
When you become a "gray mass", then in your environment there will be exactly the same depreciated people who ruined their lives thanks to their own convictions and "work on themselves." And you, together with them, begin to carry your heavy cross, occasionally rejoicing that you can take a break from the constant hassle at work and at home, remaining alone. Any aspirations to change your own life will be suppressed by the devalued people with whom you surrounded yourself.
