The transitional age for most families is a time of excitement and anxiety. It is during this period that the personality of the child is formed. This is throwing, and the search for their "I", and the acquisition of life positions. But this time is not easy not only for the child, but also for the parents. And first of all, love and understanding is required from moms and dads during this period.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not try to solve the problems that have arisen with the help of prohibitions and preachings. "Even if the child comes home after midnight and still reeks of alcohol or tobacco?" - parents will ask. Yes, because any prohibition will only increase the resentment and inner protest of the child. Remember that he is already a person. Any conversation at this time must be conducted on an equal footing.
Step 2
Pay attention to how your words sound. If you treat him like an unintelligent child, you will not reach him. Control your emotions. If you start to get nervous, it is better to postpone the conversation.
Step 3
During this period, adolescents are very worried about their appearance. Try to explain to him that appearance is not the main thing. But at the same time, teach your child to take care of himself, to be always neat. Help him choose clothes, accessories. Don't criticize your child if your tastes don't match.
Step 4
The adolescent period is accompanied by the first love experiences. And this does not affect the study for the better. Do not force your child to sit at textbooks day and night. It won't help. Better try to explain to him that it is knowledge, intelligence, erudition that will make him more attractive.
Step 5
Take your teen's problems very seriously. Don't dismiss him. Answer all his questions, do not allow a situation when the child stops communicating with you at all, in which case he will go out into the street with all his problems.
Step 6
When choosing some activities, circles, ask the child's opinion, and do not independently decide his leisure time. Find out what is really interesting for your child. It is important that the teenager makes his own decision, and not just obey the wishes of the adults.
Step 7
It is very important for parents not to go to extremes in all prohibitions and concessions. You shouldn't put pressure on a child, but you can't follow his lead either. When communicating on equal terms, do not let him offend you and other adults, be rude. The teenager must maintain a certain distance prescribed by his age.
