It is not always possible to achieve a person who you like a lot, but constant thoughts about how everything could have turned out often distract from real life. What needs to be done to stop constantly thinking about him and move on?
No time to worry
Thoughts about someone most often arise in connection with strong emotional experiences. Therefore, the easiest way to get rid of obsessive thoughts is to find a source of stronger emotions. It can be a new relationship, love, a job change, moving to another city, a vacation abroad - in general, anything that can potentially make you worry more.
Another option is to plan your life schedule so that there is simply no time for extraneous thoughts. You can sign up for training courses, start learning a foreign language, find a part-time job. In addition, there are activities that require maximum concentration, such as extreme sports or dance school. Useless thoughts can appear when there is a place and time for them in your head, and your attention is scattered. Do not give yourself the opportunity for abstract reflections, and pretty soon you will find yourself in front of the fact that thoughts about the person you like and loneliness no longer mean anything.
Taking a close look at the person causing your obsessive thoughts can be a good option. Perhaps, after analyzing all the pros and cons, emotions will weaken.
Try to think about what can happen, not what will never happen. Dreams should be constructive and real, so you don't need to imagine a long and happy life with someone you are trying to forget. Choose topics that do not relate to relationships: moving, career growth, new car. Fantasy items do not have to be material, the main thing is that they are not associated with a romantic relationship.
Psychological ways
Human consciousness is structured in such a way that many thoughts and emotions are the final links in a chain of associations. Some psychologists call the phenomena that are capable of causing such a chain of associations, "anchors." Many people have their own anchors: musical compositions, speech patterns, perfume smells, color combinations, touches. Any object or phenomenon can be an anchor if it evokes a specific emotion or thought in you.
In order to rid yourself of fruitless thoughts, try to find as many anchors as possible that lead you to sad thoughts. After realizing the causal relationship, you can destroy it yourself or with the help of a psychologist. There is a technique called "anchor replacement", when a new positive emotion is "attached" to the same phenomenon. In addition, you need to give up all "memorable" items: gifts, letters, messages on the phone. The longer your gaze clings to them, the more time you will spend worrying instead of living on.
The term "anchor" is mainly used in neuro-linguistic programming - a technique for managing one's own and other people's emotions.
In any case, a person who is strongly liked cannot be forgotten instantly. However, it is within your power to make it happen as quickly and painlessly as possible. One day you will understand that thoughts about this person are still there, but they no longer cause any emotions, becoming ordinary facts. The assertion that time heals was not born out of nowhere, although even this doctor needs the help and participation of his patients.
