Any grief has a beginning and an end. And only the grief of the parents who lost their child seems to know no bounds. After a terrible event, it is very difficult to return to a full life, the pain of loss is so strong that it takes away all strength.
The death of your own child is perhaps the most difficult test that life can present. It is very scary, incredibly painful and almost unbearable. Most parents who have lost their children forever have no idea how to live on.
4 stages of recovery after the death of a child
The first thing to do after a child dies is to acknowledge the loss. Psychologists think so. Many parents go into self-deception and denial to avoid suffering. This manifests itself as a defensive reaction of the psyche. But the irreversible death of the child will have to be admitted.
The second stage of recovery will be full living of grief, maximum immersion in it. In no case should you try to forget or distance yourself from the event. So parents will only mask their pain - from themselves, from others. Subsequently, this pain will result in serious illness or even mental disorder. To cleanse the soul, you will have to open the wound, say experts in the field of psychology. It is difficult, but it is the only sure way to recover from a bereavement.
At the third stage, parents will have to change their way of life, to establish communication with the outside world, but already without a child. With the death of the baby, parents feel lost, as the object they cared for is no longer there. So that the meaning of life is not lost, you need to do what was not possible to accomplish during the life of the child. You need to fill your free time with these things and activities. It is necessary to establish social relations and living conditions without a child, otherwise it will not be possible to recover from the loss for many years.
The fourth stage of recovery is the formation of a different attitude towards the deceased child. To live a fulfilling life, feelings must be allowed to realign. It is important to get rid of feelings of guilt, resentment, fear. It is not difficult to understand that this stage has been successfully completed. If parents can talk about a deceased child without paralyzing pain, if their sadness has become quiet and light, and their emotions are directed towards today's life, then the recovery was successful.
Life after the death of a child
In the name of your child, distribute everything that did not get to him, to other children, to people. There are a lot of unhappy and disadvantaged people, they sorely lack warmth and participation. If parents do not decide on a new pregnancy, unspent love should be directed to the people around them. A child cannot be taken away from death, but everyone can make other children a little happier!
If the grief is really weathered, the parents feel they can return to normal life. As you go through all the stages of recovery, a person gradually calms down, and his life is normalized, old interests return, life is filled with new colors.
