A break with a loved one, no matter whose fault it occurs, is always traumatic. Life seems empty and meaningless. However, you can get out of this situation as a winner, find new colors in life and surround yourself with wonderful people.
Parting is a little death
Few people are ready for the words: "I'm leaving." Even if the relationship was coming to an end, it is difficult to take their last stage calmly. From a psychological point of view, this is normal. Parting, like any other loss, must be lived and accepted. In order to recover and move on, a person normally needs to go through five stages of grief.
First comes the period of denial. “No, he was joking and does not leave”, “She cannot really take and divorce” - all the thoughts of the abandoned are circling around this. At this stage, you can make hasty, but wrong decisions, for example, pretend that nothing happened. Or call your beloved (beloved) twenty times a day, despite their requests not to do so.
After that comes aggression. Ideas of revenge, quarrels with friends and relatives, a ban on meeting children with former spouses - these are his terrible companions.
Then comes the bidding stage. A person, depending on his religious and other beliefs, tries to conclude an agreement with some higher powers. This can be a conscious step (prayers, fasting, active sudden charity) and unconscious ("I will lose weight - and he will return", "I will earn an apartment - and she will change her mind").
The next stage is depression. In severe cases, up to the need for a doctor's help. Tears, loss of strength, unwillingness to live - this will have to exist for some time. And only after that comes acceptance: positive emotions return to the person, internal forces appear, he is ready to live again.
Travel will help to survive parting - from a weekend in a country holiday home to a flight to an exotic country.
It is important for loved ones to help the abandoned person go through all these stages, which can be different in duration. It is not worth laughing at attacks of religiosity or changing oneself during the bidding period, but stirring up the conflict at the stage of aggression. This will only make the situation worse.
New life
Managing your own grief is difficult, it requires serious strength. But after accepting what happened, you can start life anew. Having experienced a breakup, people open themselves up from a new angle. Analyzing a broken relationship, you can understand what you liked about them and what categorically did not suit, and in the future you will no longer repeat the mistakes. Moreover, it is important to reflect not only on the shortcomings and merits of a former lover or beloved, but also about your own. However, do not blame yourself for what you have done or said, just refuse to repeat.
In severe cases, it is better not to be alone with yourself, but to seek help from relatives, friends or a psychologist.
In addition, after parting, there is a huge amount of free time. Previously, it was spent on joint leisure - going to the cinema or theater, dinners, etc. Now this watch is an opportunity for self-realization. You can sign up for a gym, take photography courses, start knitting or tinkering with wood, in the end - just meet more often with friends who didn't have a minute before. For some, parting helps to fundamentally change their lives.
