Breakup, divorce are events that tend to cause a lot of suffering and mental pain. Work on yourself will help to cope with them, including, among other things, the creation of psychological barriers for destructive emotions.
Necessary
- - consultation of a psychologist;
- - a ticket to the cinema or theater.
Instructions
Step 1
Carefully analyze the reasons for your breakup that triggered the breakup. And consider not only your partner's mistakes, but also your own. Once you have examined the situation in detail and made certain conclusions, do not return to it again. Remember that scrolling through the same events in your thoughts will not change anything, but it will constantly spoil your mood and take vitality.
Step 2
Stop idealizing your ex and blaming yourself for everything. In the breakup of the relationship, as a rule, both are to blame. It is better to remember all his shortcomings - imagine them in all their colors, be glad that now you do not have to endure them. Think about the benefits of your breakup more often, paying attention to even the smallest of them. For example, did your loved one snore loudly in their sleep and always slept across the bed? You no longer have to plug your ears and huddle on the very edge of the bed! Did he leave behind mountains of unwashed dishes and always scattered dirty socks all over the apartment? Enjoy perfect order! Did he forget to wish you a happy birthday? Much less disappointment awaits you now!
Step 3
Do not withdraw into yourself, be open to communication with other people. It takes time and willpower to subside the mental pain a little. With the help of the latter, you will literally pull yourself out of the abyss of melancholy - in much the same way as Baron Munchausen pulled himself out of the quagmire.
Step 4
Do not refuse friendly invitations to movies, parties and other entertainment events. If you think this is not the best time to enjoy life, you are wrong. It is now that you just need to throw off the burden of worries, unwind and be distracted.
Step 5
Start attending various sports sections, sign up for some interesting courses, find a hobby for yourself. Do your best to have as little time as possible for sad thoughts.
Step 6
Talk with friends and acquaintances as little as possible about the painful topic of breaking up. It is, of course, possible and even sometimes necessary to speak out to a loved one or a psychologist, but do not turn this activity into a kind of hobby, do not look for a "vest" into which you can cry constantly.
Step 7
Choose a positive outlook: do not watch sad melodramas and do not read poems and novels about unhappy love, do not communicate with melancholic people who elevate their inhuman suffering into a cult. Cross out anything from your life that can put you in a bad mood.
Step 8
If the situation has gone too far and you feel that you cannot cope with constant melancholy, depression, you have thoughts of suicide, seek help from a psychotherapist. He may advise you to enroll in a rehab group made up of people who are facing the same problem as you. The specialist can also prescribe you individual psychotherapy sessions, after which you will again learn to enjoy life and expect only positive events from it.
