None of us like to quarrel with family and friends. But there are situations when it becomes very difficult to avoid conflict. So how do you avoid this situation and resolve the fight?
Initially, if you feel like responding to your angry opponent, breathe in as deeply as possible and count to 10. It is this period of time that the newly emerging emotion lasts. After that, you will not have the desire to say anything without thinking it over. Moreover, after this it will be much more difficult to go to peace than to quarrel. Remember a simple rule: getting away from a conflict is much easier than trying to resolve it.
In the case when they deliberately try to provoke you into a conflict, the best option would be if you abstract and ignore the bully. Such people tend to feed on the energy of others. In psychology, they are called "energy vampires". In order to feel good, they provoke other people into conflicts and feed on their negative energy, but if they do not get what they want, the conflict will end faster than you imagine. Turn on the music in the player and put on your headphones, close your eyes and imagine that you are in some beautiful place and do not pay attention to such a person.
To end the conflict as soon as possible, try shifting your attention away from yourself to something else. Often, the instigator of the conflict makes his opponent the main object of attention: shouts at him, blames him for everything that is possible, etc. But as soon as you change his main object of attention, the conflict will exhaust itself. Ask why he is so nervous today, maybe something happened to him or he didn't get enough sleep? As soon as he realizes that now it is not you, but he is the object of attention, he will immediately stop attacking you.
Being unpredictable is one of the surest ways to get out of conflict. During a conflict, both sides expect mutual antagonism from each other. In this scenario, the dispute is much better. But as soon as someone departs from their role, the whole meaning of the conflict is lost. Respond with a kind word to an evil one. Smile if you are rude. If you behave unpredictably in conflict situations, the provocateur will be discouraged.
According to psychologists, conflicts are started by notorious and insecure people. With this behavior, they try to hide it. Be merciful to such people and stay away from them.
