As psychologists unanimously say, male infidelity does not occur without apparent reason. She points out that something collapsed and went wrong in the family. Sex, as such, is not of primary importance in relationships that have arisen on the side, because a man can get intimacy at home at any time. Feeling significant and special, filling the necessary emotions - that's what lies at the heart of cheating. Let's figure out what can go wrong in the family, and how this can be peacefully resolved.
Reasons for treason
A misunderstanding has been brewing in the family for a long time, but the couple does not dare to have a sincere, confidential conversation. Everyone lives in his own little world, on the one hand, fearing to hurt his spouse with this conversation, on the other, concealing resentment and anger in himself. It is not surprising that one of the spouses, or even both, go to the side in order to make up for the joy of communication and understanding with the other partner.
The situation is not so bad when people do not talk about their problem, it is worse when all the rage is poured out every day. The spouses constantly provoke each other into a quarrel, and the peace agreement never takes place. Constant reproaches about financial troubles, appearance, raising children, etc. A wave of mental dissatisfaction and loneliness, of their own inferiority eventually covers the spouse. Therefore, he tries to find support and love, which is not given to him in the family, on the side.
When a couple, in a fit of passion that once arose, legitimizes the relationship, and after a while realizes that they have made a mistake. Passion was mistaken for love, and at the moment there are two absolutely strangers to each other.
A man values and respects his wife, she is the mother of his children, but he loves his mistress. A sense of duty and responsibility does not allow him to dissolve the marriage, but he does not want to part with his beloved woman either. As life shows, usually such a love triangle can exist for a long time. A man will hide everything from his wife, sparing her feelings, and by all means keep his mistress near him.
The spouse is a fan of walking. Before marriage, he had many women, loyalty is not his strong point and for him cheating is in the order of things.
How to survive cheating?
According to statistics, cheating is one of the main reasons for divorce worldwide. Having learned about the relationship on the side, many decide to end the relationship with the villainous spouse and file for divorce. Everyone decides for himself. But maybe it's worth analyzing the situation and starting from scratch. It is easy to destroy, to build much more difficult. Accept for yourself that this family crisis is also your fault. It's not just that your half went to the side, which means that you did not add something in the relationship (we do not mean Don Juanov by nature).
As psychologists advise, you should stop perceiving yourself as a victim and talk frankly with your spouse. Very often, families, having gone through a similar crisis together, become closer even more, although the relationship was already completely dead before. The husband, of course, must stop the affair and again take on responsibilities for the family. It is better for the spouse to feel her importance again, to take up her favorite hobby, to which her hands did not reach, to try to receive only joyful emotions. And the most important thing for both: to listen to your soulmate, to know what she wants and what she dreams of.
