If troubles begin in family life, it is worth contacting a specialist. The psychologist can both listen and give advice on how to proceed. But it is important to understand that hiding details may not give the full picture, which means errors will arise.
Instructions
Step 1
Turning to a professional, be prepared that you will have to tell a lot of details of your personal life that you will need to answer questions. Shame, embarrassment or withholding facts are not appropriate in communication. The master must understand what is happening in order to help, in order to give correct advice. The conversation will be not only about treason, but also about your life, about the events of recent years. There will be very sensitive questions that are not always pleasant, the conversation will be about sex, about habits and preferences in different areas.
Step 2
Remember that the psychologist does not want to hurt you, he is only trying to show you what is happening from a different angle. Do not deny his words, but listen. Sometimes emotions and experiences greatly distort the truth, perhaps your vision is not entirely correct, and it is necessary to find out about this. Do not be annoyed if the conversation becomes not very pleasant, it is not the process that is important, but the result. Ponder what you heard, analyze what was said, try to get into the position of your husband, to understand his position. Aggression and blame will not help solve anything, and calm acceptance will open up new opportunities.
Step 3
When talking about a situation, focus on facts, not feelings. Your experiences are very important, but the big picture is made up of events. Do not forget to give your assessment of what is happening, as well as describe the reasons that you know and understand. Usually there are a few more points that led to treason, when working with a psychologist, you yourself will soon begin to notice them. Usually not one person is to blame, but two. You could provoke your spouse with your behavior, and you need to understand this in detail.
Step 4
A professional will never make decisions for you, he will allow you to see the situation in different ways, explain how it all looks from the side of your spouse, understand the real reasons and the possibility of correcting them. But at the same time, he will not advise - to leave or stay, divorce or close your eyes. The final decision is always up to the client, but with more facts, you can change your life in any direction. After such a difficult decision, the next stage of work will begin - the restoration and harmonization of life.
Step 5
Dealing with such a difficult situation takes several sessions. Sometimes a person has to visit a specialist's office for 3-6 months in order to get out of the current circumstances. But each visit will give relief, will be able to reduce stress, and this is great stimulating. Tune in to long-term cooperation, it is in it that the key to success. Regular visits will give you self-confidence, as well as strength to build your future further.
