Cheating is often equated with betrayal, but not every woman is able to decide to break off relations with a man who could not or did not want to remain faithful to her. Continuing to suffer, she still tries to improve her life with her unfaithful husband. But if the decision to stay together is made, then you can try, at least, to minimize suffering.
What not to do
If your husband is cheating, you should not "go with the flow" and act under the influence of emotions. There are a few things that a woman who decides to stay in a relationship should not allow herself to do.
Do not try to "take revenge" on the cheater by throwing yourself into the arms of another man - this can only aggravate the situation.
You should not, contrary to popular advice, drastically change your image and try to show the wrong person what stunning woman he dared to offend. Most likely, he will perceive it as a gesture of despair or simply will not notice.
Do not make scenes in the spirit of your favorite TV shows, refrain from hysterics and screaming: this will only help the spouse to justify himself in his own eyes. Excessive emotionality is more annoying than touching men.
Do not say nasty things about your rival, do not stoop to threats and insults. On the contrary, if you behave with restraint and dignity, you will show him and her your strength.
Do not threaten to commit suicide and other "terrible punishment". This behavior is typical for mentally unbalanced hysterical people - you don't want to look like that in the eyes of your husband?
Resist the temptation to constantly sarcastically about your husband's misconduct. The reminder of his “sin” will eventually cause him to feel guilty, and in order to get rid of it, it will be easier for the husband to leave you than to repent every day.
Do not tell him that you are ready to understand and forgive everything, even if it really is. Saying such phrases out loud, you seem to give the unfaithful spouse permission to continue to do this.
What can and should be done
Unleash your emotions, but choose a time and place for this so that your spouse does not see your weakness. Cry, beat your pillow, do something to blow off some steam.
Switch to other areas of your life: pay attention to children, get involved in professional activities, creativity. This will not only help you distract yourself from sad thoughts, but also make you feel significant and successful.
Take care of yourself, and not so much with your appearance as with your inner world: take time for your hobbies, shopping, fitness, communication with friends. Perhaps your husband’s interest in you has also faded because you have become too “homey”. But you can be a self-sufficient person, allow yourself it!
Be strong and show your strength to your husband. You should not constantly be afraid that he will leave you, especially tell him about it. On the contrary, show that even without him they are able to perfectly cope with any troubles in life: undoubtedly, this will hurt his pride, and he himself will be ready to ask you to forgive and allow him to stay.
