Sometimes you don't want to get too close to new acquaintances. How your relationship with other people will be largely depends on yourself. If you do not want to be crawled into your soul, keep a certain distance from others.
Instructions
Step 1
Be friendly, but not familiar. If you want to maintain a certain distance from others, do without too violent enthusiasm when meeting and strong emotions when talking. Expressing feelings brings people closer together. Since you just want to stay familiar with this or that person, keep a little detached.
Step 2
Don't start personal conversations or answer questions about your personal life. Answer all questions that concern only you briefly and unambiguously. At the same time, it is important to remain a polite person. After all, you only want to keep your distance, and not scare away those around you at all. If you do not open up with other people, most likely, they will not share intimate things with you, and the relationship will be built exclusively according to a business pattern.
Step 3
Do not agree to additional meetings with the person you do not want to see among your friends. Don't be afraid to offend someone. If you don't feel like getting closer to an individual, use a plausible excuse and refuse the offer. Remember that friendships and companionship usually start in an informal setting. This is what you need to avoid.
Step 4
If you want to immediately establish a certain barrier between you and another person, introduce yourself by name and patronymic and communicate only on "you". Treat the person in a very polite and respectful manner. This will prevent familiarity and familiarity from appearing in your communications. Only talk about business and don't joke too much.
Step 5
Distance yourself physically. When talking with a person, try to move away from him a couple of steps, or even fence yourself off with a table or a folder with papers. Subconsciously, your interlocutor will take this as a signal that you are not yet ready for rapprochement. Reduce all personal topics to work questions. Then the person realizes that you are in a serious mood at the moment.
Step 6
Try to get to the heart of the matter as quickly as possible. Some people, out of politeness, drag out small talk, and then they are surprised that they are being treated too familiar. Don't be tactful to ask a lot of personal questions. People can take this as a signal for rapprochement. Control your own emotions. If you pour negativity on someone, you will already destroy the distance that was originally between you. Try to be restrained, even a slightly apathetic person.
Step 7
Keep in mind that it is very difficult to keep your distance from all people. This way you won't have friends. Learn to change your approach to others depending on your current goals. At work, you can be detached, but in the company you should show a keen interest in the audience and in the topic of the general conversation.
