People-tyrants are found everywhere and everywhere. But what can be more unpleasant than a tyrant boss at work or a similar teacher at a university or school? It's one thing when a stranger insults us, whom we will never see again in our life. In this case, you can not answer at all. And it is quite another matter to become a victim at work, when responding to an insult means giving up this work once and for all.
And how to competently react in such a case?
Don't stoop to his level
In no case should you shout back at the offender. Even if there is no strength to keep your mouth shut, you should still restrain yourself. The fact is that you are unlikely to convince a person of anything, but you will go down to his level. And this level, I must say, is not high. Before you open your mouth, think carefully, is it worth humiliating yourself like this?
Insults mean nothing to you
And you don't worry about them. At all. Not in an hour, not in a day, not in a month. If you have been told something unpleasant, and it is actually very offensive, try to pretend that you do not care. Some people are completely unsettled when, in response to their screams, people react … Yes, they do not react in any way. There are no tears of resentment, no screams in response. There is nothing but complete indifference in the eyes of the person offended by them.
Have pity on the offender
He had a tough day, and now he, poor fellow, is lashing out at his subordinates. Or maybe he is simply asserting himself at your expense. In this case, you can also feel sorry for him, since he most likely has no other ways to feel like a mighty lion.
By the way, the technique of "mental disarming" of the enemy is remarkable in its simplicity. As soon as the boss opens his mouth, imagine him in some funny and awkward situation, for example, with a bowl of soup on his head. He insults you, and you see the cabbage soup slowly dripping down his face. First, it will become easier for you, because everyone knows that when the enemy is ridiculous and pathetic, then he is no longer terrible. And secondly, this person will see confidence in your eyes, not fear or resentment. And it will surely unsettle him.
