A quarrel in a relationship is quite normal if a couple is able to survive and forget an unpleasant incident. For this, one of the partners must take the first step towards reconciliation. A strong, reliable, intelligent and loving man will not wait for his woman to stop being offended, but will take the situation into her own hands.
Instructions
Step 1
Let her calm down. Both you and your significant other need time to “cool down” after an argument. The intensity of emotions will not allow you to think sanely, and an attempt at reconciliation will turn into an even greater quarrel. But do not wait too long - the unpleasant aftertaste from what happened should not remain in her and your memory for a long time. To do this, try to make up on the day of the quarrel, if it was small, or in 2-3 days, if you had a serious quarrel.
Step 2
Look for the reason. Usually, two are to blame for a quarrel, so take some of the blame on yourself, realize your mistake and her mistake, so that this does not happen again. It is also important to understand the reason for the quarrel in order to choose the method of reconciliation. If you had a fight over uncleaned garbage, then it is easy to make up, since both of you will understand that this is a trifle. And if the reason is serious, and, moreover, the fault lies more with you, for example, flirting with another woman, then you will have to thoroughly approach reconciliation and carefully consider what, how and where you will speak.
Step 3
Arrange to meet. Do not ask for forgiveness over the Internet or in a message, even a phone call is only permissible for arranging a date. You need to apologize at a personal meeting so that the girl sees a sincere desire to make peace, and not a faceless "sorry" on social networks. The exception is the distance between you. But even then try to organize a video call or record a video message. If she does not want to communicate, then act through relatives, friends or acquaintances, but achieve a meeting by any means.
Step 4
Sorry. For the sake of a loved one, pride will have to be pushed into the background, even if most or even all of the blame lies with her. Your relationship is dear to you, so there is no shame in the fact that you take the first step - this is not weakness, but wisdom, because you are in love. A simple "sorry" is not enough, you need to show that you realized your mistake and do not repeat it. Prepare your words well in advance and speak honestly. If she is to blame, then say: "I'm sorry that we quarreled." This will show that you care.
Step 5
Discuss the problem that led to the fight. Explain your behavior and dissatisfaction with her actions, but try to express it correctly so that the conversation does not generate a new quarrel. Do not leave the problem unattended, find a compromise, because, forgetting it, you will not come to a solution, and the quarrels will continue. End the reconciliation with a pleasant surprise so that your loved one stops thinking about the spat. Give a small gift, buy flowers, invite to a restaurant, organize a trip to the cinema - the main thing is that you please her and give her your attention and love.
