The ability to understand another person and come to his aid in time is the quality of a good friend. But some individuals go too far and engage in real self-sacrifice.
Think about yourself
Perhaps you are a little carried away by the establishment of someone else's life and forgot about your own existence. Think about yourself, because who thinks about you, except yourself. Surely you have your own plans, goals and desires. Take care of their implementation. Otherwise, they will remain dreams. Think about the fact that there is only one life. You will not get a second chance to take this or that step.
Even if everything is smooth in your life at the moment, you can surely improve something. Think about which areas require your intervention and take care of them. Develop and improve yourself, pay attention to your home and family, build a career, relax and enjoy life.
Some people are so used to caring for others that they feel guilty about their own comfort. If you also define yourself to such people, it's time to sound the alarm. Understand that this is an abnormal situation and needs to be corrected urgently. Start pampering and praising yourself, every day think about how you can please yourself today. Pull yourself back throughout the day and ask yourself if you are acting in your own interests at the moment or if you are making someone else's happiness.
Healthy selfishness
You should not put other people's interests above your own. This is not a constructive position. Love yourself. By forgetting about your own affairs, you are showing disregard for your own personality. You don't need to hurt yourself like that. Let a share of healthy selfishness appear in your character.
Don't let the people around you take advantage of your kindness. Sometimes others see that there is a reliable individual in front of them, always ready to help, and begin to manipulate him. In order to end this series of self-sacrifices, you need to find out in time those who use you.
Learn to say the word no. Some individuals act to the detriment of their own interests only because they do not know how to refuse. There is nothing wrong with the fact that you are uncomfortable with someone else's request. You don't owe anyone anything and don't have to make excuses or apologize.
Maybe you are trying to please everyone because you want to please everyone. The need for love and respect from those around you demonstrates that you are not treating yourself well enough. Take up your own self-esteem. Looking for approval from other people speaks of your self-doubt.
Understand that you cannot arouse sympathy in absolutely all people and at the same time remain a person. If you have character, it may not be to everyone's taste. Do not be afraid to show your own individuality and defend your position.
