The human brain is designed in such a way that the first reaction to events that take place is always based on emotions. Emotional intelligence is now believed to help people achieve success in life. However, uncontrollable experiences can be harmful. How to develop emotions correctly?
Instructions
Step 1
The first step to developing your own emotions is listening to those around you. Everyone is happy to have the opportunity to speak up. However, a rare interlocutor really empathizes with the speaker. Often, the matter is limited to formal nods and standard phrases. The ability to hear is the ability to fully engage in the speech of the interlocutor, without being distracted by extraneous thoughts. Ask again, empathize, learn to extract useful from communication with any person, because everyone is able to share valuable experience.
Step 2
Think positively. Personal development in general and the development of emotions in particular is significantly influenced by internal dialogue. It is impossible to track and evaluate every thought that arises in the human head. Avoid negative judgments, however. Do not overuse generalizations like "I always", "I never", trying to replace them with "this time" or "sometimes." Replace value judgments with facts. Instead of mentally scolding yourself with the last words, state "I made a mistake."
Step 3
Study your body language. For this it is worth observing others. People often mask their emotions with words. Behind cold, harsh phrases, uncertainty can be hidden, behind flattering speeches - anger and resentment. Crossed arms or legs are a sign of secrecy or stiffness, and conversely, a loose, relaxed posture suggests that the interlocutor feels at home. Does a colleague cover his mouth with his hand? It is likely that he is not telling the truth. Analyze the gestures of others, then pay attention to yours. Try to match your body language to the emotional tone of your words.
Step 4
Keep in control! Each emotional state has its positive and negative sides. Falling into anger, a person moves away from others, ceases to think critically, but often it is negative experiences that push to activity, stimulate to achieve goals in spite of everyone. Learning to express emotions constructively will help simple techniques. Divide the paper into two columns. In the first, write what emotions tell you to do, and in the other what rational thinking advises. Looking at this list makes it much easier to cope with feelings and make a decision.
