Various psychological trainings have gained popularity lately. Some people find it necessary to develop as a person and devote time and energy to their spiritual growth. However, not all individuals find the right path to self-improvement.
Among psychological trainings there are good, useless and even dangerous for a person. Before embarking on any personal development program, learn more about the coach, feedback, and results. Otherwise, you risk getting to non-professionals.
Shock therapy
While attending some of the trainings, there is a danger that the participants will get extreme stress. Sometimes coaches do not fully understand the subject of the lesson, but this does not bother them. Having a superficial knowledge of psychology and having developed a certain model of behavior, they teach it to other people, not paying attention to their individual characteristics.
As a result, the participants get a real shock. The training leader forces them not only to step out of their comfort zone, but also to really step over themselves. Because of such actions, the psyche of audience members suffers.
It is important to understand that it is almost impossible to apply some kind of universal model of behavior for all people. They have different personalities, problems and principles. It is very difficult to conduct a master class on personal growth for several people at the same time.
There is simply no unequivocal answer to such important questions as to become successful, how to get married, how to become more confident.
Some trainers, who are not professional psychologists, try to maintain their authority in front of the audience. To rise in the eyes of the people who came to their class, they assert themselves, choosing victims from the audience and suppressing their will.
Subjects usually resist weakly, since they blindly trust the leader and believe that these unpleasant manipulations are part of the therapy. The selected participants receive a severe blow to their self-esteem and psyche. However, the main goal of the trainer has been achieved - the desired effect has been obtained.
Deceived expectations
If no harm is received from psychological training, this does not mean that it was beneficial for the participant. Sometimes people just throw money down the drain, buying tickets for the next training.
Some people go to personal growth classes with high expectations. Perhaps out of desperation, they believe that a coach will help them change in one day, and then they can completely turn their lives around.
Alas, working on yourself is a long process. This is not a question of a couple of days or even one month. To get rid of complexes, to solve personal problems, to find the correct model of behavior, to resolve a complex conflict, several visits to a psychotherapist are required.
It is worth noting that we are talking about individual lessons. This is the only way to achieve a real effect. And by practicing for several hours or even a couple of days with a large group, it is almost impossible to change.
Immediately after the training, people can feel elated, euphoric. They talked out, met like-minded people or comrades in misfortune, they are not alone. This condition is mistaken by some participants in the classes for incipient changes. They think they have become stronger, more confident, wiser.
However, a few days later, having faced their problem a couple of times in real life, they realize that they have not received the necessary skills and do not know how to act in a given situation.
The fact is that some trainers can only look at the topic of training from one side and develop training based on their own experience.
Graduated and practicing psychologists know that it is impossible to work through a problem with an audience in one session. Therefore, they rarely undertake the development and delivery of training. But amateurs consider themselves quite competent in this matter and are happy to share their "wisdom".
Therefore, when choosing personal growth training, pay attention to a few things. First, consider whether the complexity of the topic matches the amount of time that the trainer allocates for it. Too loud promises of incredible results after training should alert you.
Second, collect information about the class leader and the center where he teaches. Thirdly, read the reviews of those who have already attended this training as participants. Find out what methods the coach is practicing when working with the audience. If they are too harsh, feel free to dismiss the proposal aside. Sign up for a training only when nothing bothers you at all.
