Negativity negatively affects the functioning of our brain. This has been proven by experts. Another's whining is one of the sources of this harm. How to deal with this without ruining your relationship with a person who is essentially a whiner? There are 3 proven ways.
Many experts, in particular Trevor Blake, believe that the brain is somewhat similar to a muscle. Moreover, different activities affect him in different ways. The negative one weakens, and the positive one strengthens and trains.
Someone else's nagging is a source of harm to our brains
Just 30 minutes of someone else's whining a day and the resulting emotions negatively affect our brains. Moreover, whining means not so much complaints about life as a lack of desire to cope with the problems that have fallen down. Therefore, bad news in various types of media can also be attributed to it.
As a result of this negative impact, the brain loses some of the neurons that could be used in a more worthy way: for example, for mental activity.
How to deal with this problem? Do not allow yourself to be drawn into someone else's negativity. If a person really needs advice, he will ask for it or make at least some attempts to find a solution to the problem. If a person only complains, without any attempts and desire to correct the situation, he wants you to join him in his stream of negativity.
How to protect yourself from other people's negativity?
Experts advise several ways to protect yourself from negativity:
- Distance. Inveterate whiners can be compared to smokers. With the latter, you are in danger of becoming a passive smoker if you are just around. The situation is the same with whiners.
- Please think about a solution to the problem. Sometimes a simple question "What are you planning to do in this situation?" If a person is a whiner, then he will immediately stop his complaints. Because such people need a solution to the problem last.
- If the first two methods did not help, psychological defense methods can help. If a conversation with an eternally aching person could not be avoided, you can imagine yourself covered with a cap that protects from other people's senseless complaints. Or an invisible cloak. Or on a paradise beach. You can politely nod your head, ask sympathetic questions, and bask in your head on a paradise island.
