Sometimes people do what they don't like, so as not to offend others. The desire to please others can be detrimental to your personal interests. Stop dancing to someone else's tune and declare your principles.
Do not depend on someone else's opinion
Think about why you find it difficult to resist other people's influence. Maybe it's because other people are more authority to you than you are. Understand that this hinders your development and distracts you from your personal goals.
Base your worldview on a statement of human equality. Remember that your opinion is just as valuable as someone else's point of view. And in those cases when you need to make an important decision, your position is a priority, because only you know all the nuances of your life and all the details of your existence.
This means that only you can find the best solution. Therefore, you do not need to ask for advice from relatives or friends.
The only one whose opinion should be considered on a par with his own is a professional, an expert in the matter in which you yourself are not strong.
Your environment influences you. Therefore, try to diversify your circle of acquaintances. If you meet and talk primarily with people from the same environment and a similar worldview, you will gradually begin to adopt their habits and beliefs. And this is also falling under someone else's influence. The more colorful your circle of friends, the more chances you have to maintain your individuality.
Improve your self-esteem. If you believe in yourself, you will stop looking back at others. Realize once again that you and your parents, and your bosses, and your idols are all people. None of them is perfect or worthy of blind admiration and following.
Protect from manipulation
Unfortunately, some unscrupulous people may try to use you for their own purposes. To avoid becoming their puppet, learn to defend against manipulation. The surest way to do this is to recognize the urge to force you to do something against your will early on.
Include critical thinking. Consider if the person you are communicating with might have some ulterior motive. For example, if it is beneficial for your colleague to persuade you to take certain actions, be prepared for the fact that he will try to get you to dance to his tune.
The more objectively you assess the situation, the more chances you have to keep your own interests and not be a pawn in anyone's game.
To test a person for a sincere attitude towards you, try to deny him a request. If it was a consumer, you will immediately notice it by the change in their behavior. When you can't immediately get your bearings and make a decision, take a time out. Having weighed everything in a calm atmosphere, you can resist provocation.
Keep your goals in mind. And if someone's request goes against them, do not agree to it. Your interests should come first. Learn to say no to manipulators. They shamelessly take advantage of the fact that some people do not know how to refuse, even if it harms them. Don't fall for this bait.
