It is easy to start a conversation with a stranger if you are confident in yourself, you know what to talk about and how to interest the interlocutor from the very first words. If you find yourself uncomfortable trying to start a conversation with a stranger, here are some tips you can use to avoid any complications.
Instructions
Step 1
To start a conversation, choose people who are open to conversation. In fact, a lot of people don't mind hanging out with strangers at all. Finding them out is pretty simple. Alan Pease and Alan Garner, authors of The Language of Conversation, advise paying attention to non-verbal gestures and postures. If a person sits in a relaxed position, smiles and looks at you longer than usual, you can quite calmly start communicating with him, since he has already shown his interest in you.
Step 2
Your first words should not be too serious and clever. It is best to ask any question regarding the situation around you and the interlocutor, or make a general comment. Try to maintain a positive attitude with the first phrase and demonstrate your good disposition. Phrases that carry some kind of negativity have no chance of being the beginning of a good conversation.
Step 3
When you are about to strike up a conversation, consider how you can start a conversation outside the box using the following topics:
• General situation
• Your interlocutor
• You yourself
The best and most promising option is to involve the interlocutor in a conversation about the general situation in which you are. Take a look around and find something interesting or unusual that is suitable for starting a conversation, and, referring to the interlocutor, make your comment about this. If you start with questions or comments regarding the personality of your counterpart, chances are that he will not want to continue communicating. He may not be in the right mood to talk about himself or share his feelings. Although most people, on the contrary, like to talk about themselves. They are usually grateful for the opportunity to talk about themselves and answer questions about themselves. To start communication by talking about yourself is the most unfortunate option of all possible. He shows your interest only in his "I", even if it is not so in reality.
The main thing is to be brave and do not think that it is beyond your strength to start communicating with strangers. After all, eastern wisdom says that even the longest path begins with the first step.
