Low self-esteem is a very inconvenient thing. A person who does not know how to adequately assess his capabilities and abilities will “go with the flow” and risk missing all the most useful and exciting in life. This means that you should not wait until others will appreciate you - it is easier and more effective to start appreciating yourself.
Try to adequately assess your own qualities: strengths and weaknesses of character, strengths and weaknesses of the figure. A person cannot be completely made up of shortcomings and have absolutely no merits. Take a piece of paper and write down all the good things that you know about yourself: character traits, your skills, talents and abilities. You will be surprised how much positive you can find in yourself.
Now write down what you think relates to your flaws. Oddly enough, any flaw is the flip side of some positive quality. Try to rewrite your “negative” list so that your “flaws” appear positive on it.
For example, such a quality as "slowness" can be rephrased as "the ability to do everything carefully and accurately, paying attention to details."
Success does not come to someone who simply expects his life situation to change. Do not be afraid to start something new, try activities unfamiliar to you, ways of responding to various life situations. You may not be able to do everything right away - this is normal. Give yourself the right to be wrong. Mistakes allow you to understand that the chosen path was not entirely correct, and to correct your further behavior. Remember that the one who does nothing is not mistaken. Don't beat yourself up for mistakes. Just try to build on the lessons learned and start over.
Remember to celebrate and reward yourself for even your most modest successes. It is not so important whether those around you noticed the changes taking place with you - it is much more important that you yourself notice and appreciate them. Give yourself small gifts, indulge yourself if you see that one more, albeit small, step to success has been made.
Start a kind of diary or calendar of a happy life, in which you will write down at least 5 events every day that made you happy, as well as at least 5 reasons to praise yourself.
Be attentive to those around you. Among these people, there are probably two very undesirable personalities: those who help you keep your self-esteem at a low level and constantly remind you that "you will not succeed" and "you better not take this on", as well as those who constantly complain on life and sees only negative moments in it. Keep communication with such people to a minimum.
Communicating with positive, successful people, you are likely to "catch" their love of life and desire for success.
By the way, you also need to get rid of your own habit of complaining about life and failure. Try to see positive sides in situations, new opportunities that they bring you, and not a source of suffering and cause for regret.
Surely among your friends there are those who really have serious problems that you can help solve. Do it. Unselfishly, not expecting reciprocal help and even gratitude from those you are helping. If such people are not found in the nearest circle, you can try to do something good for complete strangers.
And one more essential detail. Remember that physical activity is not only a way to keep your body in good shape, but also an excellent source of vital energy. Do not neglect physical exercise, walking, playing with children in the fresh air - this will make your life more joyful and improve your well-being. And you simply do not want to "dig" into yourself over and over again, looking for flaws and complaining about mistakes.
