It is believed that adults are supposed to solve their problems on their own, and crying and complaining about life is unworthy occupation. But keeping emotions and negative thoughts in yourself is also harmful - you can get sick. It means, nevertheless, it is sometimes necessary to “pour out the soul” for someone, at least for the sake of a therapeutic effect.
Instructions
Step 1
In Russia, it is customary to share your sorrows with friends. Well, who else will listen and support, sympathize and understand? Therefore, inviting a friend or girlfriend for a "glass of tea" and giving free rein to emotions during a heart-to-heart conversation is far from the worst way. However, it also happens that a friend "suddenly appears", and all the revelations expressed by you on a wave of emotions will be used against you. Is your “confidant” reliable enough to keep all your secrets? In addition, too frequent use of a friend as a "vest" does not benefit the friendship: the need to sympathize and empathize with your sorrows takes away too much energy from the interlocutor, and at some point even the most loyal friend may get tired of it.
Step 2
It is believed that a heart-to-heart conversation is good with a person you meet by chance. It could be a neighbor in a compartment on a train or something like that. Indeed, having thrown out emotions, you can not be afraid that the interlocutor will use the information he heard to the detriment of you, pass it on to someone from your acquaintances, or will not treat you too well - after all, you are absolutely strangers, each of you has your own life, and the likelihood of a new one meetings are negligible. But not every day you have to travel on trains or intercity buses, and a fellow traveler may not always be conducive to a heart-to-heart conversation. So this method cannot be applied more or less regularly.
Step 3
Communication on the Internet is akin to the previous method. You hid behind a nickname, did not indicate your data, it would seem - why be afraid? You can talk on any topic and express whatever your heart desires! But the problem is that what gets on the Internet stays there forever. And a forgotten dialogue or accusatory post can "emerge" at the most inopportune moment and in the most unfavorable situation for you. So, when sending your printed maxims to the vastness of the world wide web, it is not superfluous to remember the old truth that it is impossible to cut down with an ax what is “written with a pen”.
Step 4
The most civilized way to talk about your problems and try to solve them will, undoubtedly, turn to a psychologist. But this method also has its drawbacks. First, “intimate conversations” with a “doctor of human souls” are far from free, and to really understand the problem and find ways to solve it, one or two sessions are clearly not enough. This means that you will have to fork out for a fairly tangible amount. In addition, a visit to a psychologist assumes that a person is ready to work, change his outlook on life and behavior style. If there is no such conscious need, you should not even start the sessions - you will only waste money and time. In addition, it is not so easy to find “your” psychologist, especially in small towns, where you can count the number of specialists in this area on one hand.
Step 5
And, finally, another way to pour out your soul is a dialogue with yourself. By the way, psychologists argue that this is a very useful exercise from a therapeutic point of view: the expressed emotions find a way out, and thoughts, framed in sentences, acquire clarity, and it becomes much easier for a person to understand their problems. The main condition for such a dialogue (or monologue) is that it is pronounced not to oneself (which is more usual), but out loud. Find a time and place when no one can interfere with you or accidentally hear your outpouring, and start an individual psychotherapy session! Better yet, do it in writing, not on a computer, but with a regular fountain pen on a piece of paper. After you feel that there is nothing to add to what has been written, the sheet with the revelations can and even should be destroyed. This act also has a therapeutic value: it symbolizes getting rid of negativity and emotional cleansing.
