As psychologists say, guilt does not always have real reasons. However, this kind of emotion can build up, exerting a strong stressful effect on the human psyche. Therefore, the feeling of guilt must be learned to overcome in time, becoming more confident and stronger.
Where does guilt come from?
After the death of loved ones, many experience not only understandable depression and sadness. Often people are simply overcome by sadness and depression, as well as a feeling of powerlessness from the inability to change the course of events and return the deceased. Many tend to get bored and even talk with the dead, continuing an unfinished conversation.
In some cases, people may suffer from feelings of guilt towards the deceased. To overcome this, first of all, you need to try to understand how such experiences can be caused, and how realistic it is to change the current situation.
How to deal with these emotions
If a person is directly responsible for the death of the deceased, for example, as a result of an accident, the situation can be even more dire. However, a way out can also be found from this situation. For example, if a driver who has run into a pedestrian, after a long time after a tragic incident, not only continues to regret, but also suffers from the realization of his own guilt, it is necessary to put this energy into a “peaceful channel”, for example, to help the relatives of the deceased both morally and financially. If the relatives of the deceased categorically refuse to get in touch, you can try to act with the help of intermediaries, contacting your friends and acquaintances. As a last resort, you can do something while maintaining anonymity in order to try to move a heavy burden from your soul.
Believers can turn to church - confession, prayer and fasting can not only restore peace of mind, but find a way out of this situation. Sometimes it is enough just to communicate with a clergyman, regardless of which confession a person belongs to.
If you can't cope with the feeling of guilt on your own, and sadness and depression only grow over time, despite all the actions taken, you should think about the help of qualified psychologists. Perhaps, if a person speaks out, voicing their fears and the essence of their experiences, it will be possible to look at the current situation from a different angle. It is likely that as a result of a confidential conversation, new ways of solving the problem may be discovered, in particular, any actions that can compensate for the feeling of heaviness in the soul and feelings of guilt before the deceased.
Actions that can reduce feelings of guilt towards the deceased
However, sometimes people themselves cannot explain what caused the feeling of guilt before the deceased. First, it is necessary to accept what happened as a fact - nothing can be changed, the person cannot be returned, no matter how much one wants. And secondly, you can and should change your attitude to what happened. According to the ancient Russian belief, one cannot cry too much when remembering the deceased - otherwise he will be, to put it mildly, uncomfortable in the other world.
Remembering someone who is no longer there, it is better to think about what his wishes might be, and to the best of your ability to try to implement it. For example, thinking about deceased parents with a sense of guilt, it is worth trying to understand what could make them happy - the marriage of a daughter, the admission of a son to a university, or the birth of grandchildren? Or maybe in recent years they very often talked about such simple things as repairing or arranging a beautiful flower garden under the windows of the house? After all, it's not so difficult to try to do what they might very much like during their lifetime. And a guilty person can relieve his condition by concentrating on achieving this or that kind of goal.
