All people have felt guilt at least once in their lives. Feelings of guilt are completely useless and the hardest to get rid of.
What is guilt
Unrequited love brings pain, but at the same time makes us stronger. Through the feeling of loneliness, we are able to reveal ourselves as fully as possible. Longing, which eats away from the inside, is able to teach acceptance, humility. These and other feelings are not the most pleasant, but they can be used for good. is not one of those feelings.
drains. When we are consumed with guilt, we do not correct our mistakes, we ignore them, continuing to live. We spend our vitality fighting guilt. The guilt will not let go - you can reproach yourself for an infinitely long time and experience it. Sometimes it seems that strong punishment can remove the feeling of guilt. But this is not the case. Guilt will continue to drain life from you. The guilt feeds on your strength. You can get rid of the feeling of guilt only by an effort of will - to make a decision that you will no longer give your energy to guilt.
How to get rid of guilt
First. Replace guilt with remorse
Remorse and guilt are different feelings. However, they can be easily confused. We experience repentance when we admit our guilt and take responsibility for what happened. Having repented, a person is ready to correct his mistake or, if this is impossible, to be punished for it. Or accept forgiveness.
Having repentant, a person does not seek excuses for himself. He does not curse, does not hate, does not grovel, does not despise himself. Having admitted his mistake, the repentant person is ready to take responsibility for its consequences. If you continue to suffer with guilt, you will not be able to find the strength for responsibility.
Second. To live on
Despite the mistakes made, you need to live on. To live so that life brings pleasure, happiness, joy. Live to the fullest. Continue to give the world all the good that you can give it. If you continue to torment yourself with guilt, it will be impossible to correct the mistake. You simply do not have the strength to continue living and try to fix the situation.
Third. Forgive yourself
The most difficult, but also the most necessary. Necessary. You need to accept the fact that you are worthy of forgiveness, like any mortal in this world.
Do you remember the moments in your life when you forgave another person? From the bottom of my heart, from a pure heart. Remember this experience and apply it to yourself. You, like any other person, deserve understanding, warmth. And forgiveness. Ask yourself a question: if I were not myself, but a different person (my friend, colleague, acquaintance), would I forgive myself? If I were God, would I forgive myself? Yes. They would forgive. Do it.
Fourth. Overestimate the amount of guilt
Are you really to blame? Are you sure about that? Perhaps you have a feeling of guilt because you have learned this way, and other people's stereotypes, attitudes, and an alien worldview speak in you. Perhaps, "what will be, will not escape," and everything should have happened as it happened. Perhaps you are just one of the guilty ones, and you are trying to take it all on yourself. There is no correct answer to these questions. How to answer them is your personal decision.
