Some people now and then analyze their past actions, and if they notice something bad in them, they feel guilty. And there is nothing bad in this, but only on one condition - everything in moderation. If you have developed a guilt complex in yourself, then you must definitely overcome it, otherwise, driving yourself into a corner, you will become an insecure person.
Instructions
Step 1
Think about what makes you feel guilty. Maybe you are trying to please everyone, to be good, afraid to say "no" to someone? Thus, you do not want to disappoint others. Understand that if you refuse someone, arguing with some facts, then no one will beat you for this and, perhaps, will not even be offended.
Step 2
Understand that everyone has the right to make a mistake, if you are certainly guilty, then ask for forgiveness and forget about it, drawing conclusions for the future. There are no ideal people in the world, you must start from this and destroy the prevailing stereotypes in your understanding.
Step 3
Be yourself. As you know, a guilt complex arises from the fact that a person is trying to be good for everyone, thus he puts on a kind of "mask", which later does not suit him and hence a feeling of inferiority arises.
Step 4
In order to overcome the guilt complex, some psychologists advise to describe all the actions taken on paper, without giving them an assessment. After you have done this, find the reasons that prompted you to do this. And then just try to justify yourself. At the end, be sure to tear this piece of paper into small pieces, at the same time try to forget about it.
Step 5
Talk to someone. It is better if the interlocutor is an unknown person who can objectively assess the situation and give some advice. You can easily find such a person on the net in any chat room.
Step 6
Guilt is the negativity that you direct towards yourself. In order for it to disappear, learn to show your feelings, both negative and positive. Do not hide your head in the sand, like an ostrich, there are problems - you need to solve them, and not shut yourself in and quietly blame yourself for all the estimated sins. When expressing feelings, you do not need to shout, speak calmly. Remember, honesty is central to dealing with a complex.
Step 7
Well, if everything has gone too far, seek help from a specialist.
