A friendly and close-knit family is one of the most important factors in the happy life of any person. Relatives should help and support each other, not the other way around. But what to do if it became obvious that your relatives absolutely do not hear you?
For most people, family is sacred. Even if relations with relatives do not develop in the best way, you have to endure their taunts, moralizing, interference in your personal life, restraining yourself so as not to express a bunch of unpleasant words in your face. However, it is worth considering whether you need to endure all this and restrain yourself. It might be time to break the connection with them.
How to understand that it's time to erase relatives from life:
- They remember kinship only if they need help. The rest of the time, people do not make themselves felt, or they may not answer calls if they ask for something.
- Relatives are constantly accusing of something, exuding a continuous negativity, they are unhappy with everything. They believe that life is not built correctly. They look for shortcomings in actions, personal life, actively discuss them, making some claims.
- Communicating with them negatively affects self-esteem. After talking with loved ones, one begins to feel one's own insignificance, weakness, and even stupidity. Only a few days after communication does the mood improve.
- If you turn to your relatives for advice, ask for help, tell about an unpleasant situation that happened recently, then they will bring it up for public discussion. As a result, all the people around, and maybe the neighbors, will know about the appearance of troubles.
- All the time they find some kind of shortcomings in their studies, work, personal life. And the soul mate is considered a temporary phenomenon, and learning in life is unlikely to come in handy, and work leaves much to be desired.
- They constantly cite a relative living thousands of kilometers away as an example. They vividly discuss his life, income, character, believing that you need to strive to become like this person whom no one has personally seen for the last 20 years.
- They try to humiliate by any means, not shying away from abuse and insults. You need to live exclusively according to the rules they have created, and if you break them, you will have to listen to a lot of nasty things in your address.
- They impose their opinion, do not want to listen. If relatives claim that a certain person is not suitable as a friend, girlfriend or second half, then it is useless to argue with them. And in order to resist, you must have a strong character, go into conflict.
- They are exposed as the aggressor if something gets out of control. One has only to show willpower, to fight back, as they begin to accuse of aggressiveness and inadequacy. As a result, doubts about their righteousness creep in.
If you start to move away from such people, they will in every possible way prevent this, so as not to lose control. The main thing is not to depend on relatives financially, otherwise it will be almost impossible to get rid of toxic relatives.
