Being part of a huge family is a great happiness and a huge responsibility. It can be difficult to please all relatives, each of whom may have their own opinion about your appearance, a new job, or a potential spouse.
Instructions
Step 1
Be attentive to your relatives. Those who are especially diligent in giving advice tend to suffer from attention deficit disorder. If you understand this, then it will be easier to realize that when they express their opinion, they are not always interested in the result: changing your behavior. Sometimes this is the most acceptable and widespread format of communication, allowing you to forget about your own problems or feelings of loneliness for a while. The more attention your family member receives from you, the less often they will be tempted to teach you and share advice.
Step 2
Change the subject of the conversation. More than anything, people love to talk about themselves. Being able to express your opinion is a way to prove yourself. But if instead of listening to arguments that it is time for you to change your job or husband, you start asking a person about his own life difficulties, then he will forget about you for a long time. And he will be glad to talk about how he lives, how he breathes. Simply switching from teachings and advice to talking about the mentor itself works great if you want to get rid of someone else's notations for a while.
Step 3
Understand, but don't accept. Give the person the opportunity to fully, eloquently express their opinion. Don't interrupt with a word. Often, people do not go further than words. Having uttered threats to "talk to the boss" or "scare the neighbor", your counterpart will soon feel satisfaction that he has helped you with even a word. And he will not interfere with the further course of things. In the meantime, you can make it clear to a relative that you value his opinion, you perfectly understand why and how it was formed, but you want to do everything as you see fit. Many people who give advice are willing to speak up, but are not ready to take responsibility for the fact that these advice can ruin your life.
Step 4
Work on your own self-esteem. People with a healthy sense of self-esteem rarely wonder how they can get rid of the pressure of relatives or parents. Lowered self-esteem, on the other hand, makes you dependent not only on relatives, who often want good things, but also on dubious buddies who can manipulate you. Look for activities or expressions that make you feel important. Communicate more often with those who love and appreciate you the way you are. And then it will be easier for you not to become dependent on the opinions of family and friends.
