Respect is often spoken of. But does everyone know what it is? Respect is completely unfamiliar to young children and ill-mannered people. Only those who are endowed with the ability to respect themselves have a concept of this.
Necessary
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Instructions
Step 1
Pay attention to the fact that decent people respect each other even when they are objectively enemies. To be respected, look inside yourself and try to understand the nature of your emotions and aspirations, feelings and desires. By understanding yourself, you can learn to understand another person, listen to him, see the true motives of his behavior, which expresses the ability to respect.
Step 2
You've probably had to find yourself in situations where you are forced to react in some way to an aggressive and openly disrespectful attitude. Avoid two standard behaviors. In the first case, do not let resentment and anger prevail in your mood. Do not respond with aggression to aggression. Then you will not develop feelings of guilt, remorse or fear for the possible consequences of your behavior later.
Step 3
Having abandoned the second option, do not "swallow" the offense and do not try to "ride out the storm." Most likely, your upbringing and intelligence will interfere with you. You can't afford to offend another person! However, after communicating with him, a feeling of some vulnerability and resentment will not leave you. To get rid of this, do not regret the lost moment when you still had to express your opinion and demand elementary respect for yourself and respect for your human interests. Realize that you need to change your behavior.
Step 4
In addition to these two options, sometimes a situation arises when a person is very respected at work, and at home, tired and trying to rest, he is simply not able to properly react to the not at all respectable antics of the household. So it turns out that at work a person seems to be one, and at home - different. In such a situation, make it clear to your loved ones that you are tired and want to rest.
Step 5
Analyze your behavior and understand what exactly you expect from communication with people around you, from existing or possible relationships, from various situations, etc. Express your thoughts as accurately as possible, writing down all your thoughts on paper if necessary. If you intend to change anything, declare it. Do not think that everyone around you can understand you without words.
Step 6
Behave in a self-assertive manner. The basis of such assertive behavior, as it is also called in psychology, is the choice of a way to achieve a goal in which the interlocutor remains respected, and you feel no less respected, protected and confident. Make it clear to your opponent that you have your opinion on the issue under discussion, which must be reckoned with. So you leave yourself and him a chance for further communication and good relationships. This is the position that a confident person should take.
Step 7
Always consider and respect the needs of the people you interact with. This is the only way to achieve self-respect. Remember your goal: consensus, compromise, good mood, health, whatever.
Step 8
When communicating, listen carefully and try to understand the person. Find what you like in it and compliment it appropriately. Having disposed him to yourself, you will be able to conduct a confidential conversation, arousing respect and a desire for further communication.
Step 9
Be open in dialogue. Try to cover the issues of the conversation honestly, while maintaining a respectful attitude towards your interlocutor. Explain the reasons why you do not like any of his statements. So you will not be dependent on your emotions, you will have the opportunity to express your thoughts more clearly. In addition, you will not be able to be manipulated, tk. it is for emotions that there is an opportunity to "hook" you. Your environment will be forced to recognize your status and interests, and consciously and voluntarily.
