Promises and reality do not always coincide, not every person is able to translate their words into reality. But there are people whose word is very valuable, and even if it costs a lot of effort, they still carry out their plans. Learning to understand this is not difficult, it is just important not to place too high hopes on it.
Promises are rarely made just like that, and even more so they are not always fulfilled just for fun. There may be a variety of motives behind them. Lovers often promise to make the life of a loved one beautiful, and they do not lie, they believe that they can create an ideal future. There are people who promise in exchange for something, someone needs help, someone wants fame or money. It is important to understand what motives drive a person in order to know in advance about the implementation of his words.
Words and deeds
If you are not familiar with a person, if you have been communicating very recently, do not place high hopes on him. Of course, others can convince him of his honesty and loyalty to his word, but this is not enough. Rely on your experience, listen to your feelings and wait for action. It is worth believing only when it is realized. Having heard about the upcoming actions, do not rely too much on implementation, sometimes it is even worthwhile to play it safe. It is possible to speak about the reliability of a person only after he has brought many things to life.
Loud words may turn out to be just fiction, so try to find out the details, if they promise you something, clarify how it will be implemented. Sometimes it is easy to check the veracity, because in the little things a person can get confused if they are fiction or lies. But you do not need to tell a person in the eyes that he cannot, do not deprive yourself and his chance, but at the same time be vigilant, look for other opportunities.
How to respond to promises
If you have to do something in return for a service or thing, do not rush to pay immediately. You can fulfill your end of the contract, but that will not protect you from deception. Usually it is better to give only an advance payment or agree that you yourself will fulfill your plans after the promise is fulfilled.
If nothing is demanded from you for the performance of a service, it is better to clarify whether you will need to give something later. Sometimes people are silent about that, but they will ask later, and then it will be more difficult to refuse. You can talk about duty as a joke, so as not to frighten the person, just easily ask if you can then satisfy all his desires. Sometimes, after the answer, the promised becomes irrelevant.
Don't be offended if the person said and didn't. Sometimes it just didn't work out, sometimes there was not enough time, and it can still come true. Remember that a person just gave a word, and not everyone has it. Do not be angry if your expectations are not met, because it is always better to rely on yourself and not on other people.
