It is pointless and useless to reproach and reproach yourself for mistakes. Guilt for a wrong step can live in a person's heart for a long time, interfering with enjoying life. Another approach is more constructive: draw the appropriate conclusions, and then let go of the situation.
Instructions
Step 1
Learn to perceive all your actions as an inseparable part of your own nature. Some people spend many hours reflecting on their past, longing to come back to a certain moment and fix a situation. Look at it from the other side. If you were given a second chance, you would do the same, because all your actions bear the imprint of your personality. At a particular moment, you had every reason to do so and not otherwise. Perhaps knowing this will help you let go of past mistakes and stop worrying about them.
Step 2
Understand that all your mistakes are your life experience. Without certain mistakes in the past, you could not be the same smart, wise and successful person in the present. Wrong steps make you grow above yourself, receive certain information even on a subconscious level. And if you do a thorough analysis of what happened and fully understand the situation, your chances of benefitting from your fiasco will increase. Draw appropriate conclusions for the future.
Step 3
Believe me, it's impossible to go through life without mistakes. The point is not even that there are no ideal people, some weaknesses are inherent in everyone, but that sometimes circumstances do not add up in the best way. Don't worry too much that something went wrong. Be more philosophical about mistakes. Do not forget that the absence of errors can occur only at the moment of complete inactivity. So don't be afraid to try and try. You have the right to stumble, just like those around you.
Step 4
Be more forgiving with yourself. Imagine that the act of which you are ashamed was done by your close friend who has a lot of merits. If you are sure that in general he is a wonderful, kind and intelligent person, you probably will not judge him. This means that you should not be so harsh in relation to yourself. Love and appreciate yourself. If you accept your own personality and live in harmony with your own nature, you will learn to forgive yourself easily.
Step 5
If some action haunts you, try to correct the situation. Apologize to the person you hurt. Explain how well you really feel about him, and what feelings moved you at a certain point. Even if you are not understood and forgiven, your conscience must be clear. You have tried to make amends, and the problem no longer concerns you. Do the same with other situations. Instead of reproaching yourself and worrying about what you have done, act, look for a way out of this situation, and then forget about what happened.
Step 6
Focus on the present moment. Stop lingering thoughts in the past, albeit recent. It is important for you to truly, acutely realize how short and fleeting life can be. Therefore, you should not waste time on reflection. Think better about what can please you in the present moment, and what you can pamper yourself with in the near future. Pay attention to what is happening around you, see how beautiful the world around you is. Think how big it is, and how small the reason you are upset about for so long. Try to live to the fullest and get joy from it, and it's better to forget about the unpleasant moments.
