A person lives in society and is surrounded by means of communication, which means that he cannot do without active or even insignificant daily communication. Depending on the situation and the nature of the conversation, communication can cause misunderstanding or conflict.
Instructions
Step 1
Communication barriers arise from incompetence, insecurity, stiffness, open or latent aggression, or misunderstanding of the parties. To make it clear to the interlocutor what you want to focus on, you must follow several universal rules. Always start with the essentials, conversations from afar rarely lead to a solution. Otherwise, proceed as appropriate.
Step 2
If you cannot overcome the barrier of communication while dating, start with a sincere compliment, note, invitation. Not sure what to talk about on your first date? Take this opportunity to invite your passion to the cinema, theater, exhibition. Jointly experienced emotions become the reason for the beginning of communication. Leaving the cinema, share your impressions of the movie you saw. This will help to unobtrusively move to general topics.
Step 3
If you need to ask a few clarifying questions (from the boss, at a press conference, from the teacher), clearly state them. Don't start off by saying "sorry, could you give me a little time." Apologizing, you deliberately put yourself below the interlocutor, the request to take time in most cases is perceived by the interlocutor with reluctance, and the formulation with a particle of not ("could you") begs itself a negative answer.
Step 4
When conflict situations arise, regardless of how the interlocutor will behave, keep your own emotions under control. Do not put yourself above him intellectually, do not threaten or insult him in any way. Do not succumb to provocations to become personal.
Step 5
In an argument, do not shy away from a specific topic. Calmly explain the problem to the other person. If you express your point of view, argue. Learn to listen to other people's arguments, do not interrupt. If the interlocutor leaves the question, correctly return the conversation to the right direction. Don't make general accusations like "You always forget to take out the trash" or "You never listen to what your subordinates say." Your goal is to understand a specific issue, and not to provoke aggression from the interlocutor. Solve problems in a civilized way.
