One of the secrets to successful conversations is choosing the right phrases. Often people react inappropriately to other people's words only because they were frightened by the expressions chosen by the interlocutor. It is best to avoid such mistakes.
Phrases that are scary to hear from loved ones
From lovers, as well as from parents, you can occasionally hear the classic, but no less frightening phrase: "We need to talk seriously." Most of all, in this case, people are afraid of the unknown: it is clear that a conversation is expected, moreover, probably on an unpleasant topic, but what exactly will be discussed is unknown. A person begins to remember all his "sins", to think what exactly happened, to create in his imagination the conceivable and inconceivable dangers that await him.
The innocent-looking phrase “Come on, come to me”, said in a threatening tone, has a similar effect. It causes fear and even panic, especially if in this way the father or mother calls the child to him.
The phrase "I know everything" or its analogue "You don't want to tell me anything?" it can also have a very strong effect, especially when it comes to a note, e-mail or SMS, when a person cannot hear the intonations and see the expression on the face of his interlocutor. Hearing such words from someone close, especially from a husband or wife, you can fall into a state of panic, trying to guess what exactly became known, and what threatens to clarify the facts that the person wanted to hide.
A young guy or a young girl can sometimes be seriously frightened and even made to panic by the phrase he heard from the other half: "I think it's time for you to get to know my parents." The less experience a person has in love affairs, the more terrible these words will be for him. For men who are not planning to have children, there is, however, an even more traumatic option: "Honey, I'm pregnant."
Panic phrases
Even calm people feel uncomfortable when they are told, "It won't hurt at all." A less restrained and balanced person can even seriously panic in such a situation. In short, it is not a good idea to calm people down in this way before medical procedures.
Interestingly, such a phrase can cause panic even if the person knows what exactly he will have to experience and is already familiar with the procedure. In this case, even the unprofessionalism of the doctor begins to frighten him.
To make a person panic, sometimes it's enough to simply pick a moment when they are worried or upset about something, and then say, "I have very bad news for you." An especially strong effect appears when this phrase is said to people waiting for the results of some important case for them.
