Have you faced a situation when your close or distant acquaintance cannot get along in any team? He comes to a new job, conflicts arise, then dismissal, and so on in a circle many times. What could be the reasons for such relationships in the team?
Our relationship with the team is built in accordance with those attitudes that have arisen and formed for a long time. Some of the attitudes are taken from the parental family, as from the first experience of interacting with others, the rest appear later in school age.
In the event of persistent problems in communicating with the team, the following reasons can be distinguished.
Opposing your "I" to the interests of the team
There are people who psychologically seem to merge with those around them, they very clearly understand their interests, and if they do not try to help others, then at least they do not oppose the interests of the collective or its individual representatives.
In our case, everything is just the opposite. A person who has persistent conflicting relationships with the team initially opposes himself and those around him. There is a clear separation of their interests and interests and the needs of others, their own benefits and common benefits.
If such a person drew a picture of himself and the team, then he himself would be drawn in one space of the sheet, and the team in another place, and there would be no connections between them.
Inability to enter into a cooperative relationship
In many cases, cooperative relationships can yield more results than the sum of individual efforts, and almost anyone is able to invest in any common cause, while receiving their own personal benefit.
For example, any employee contributes to the work of his organization, but in return receives a part of the total product or income that he could not create alone without interaction with other specialists.
In our case, a person can understand this theoretically, but in reality he cannot correlate his interests and the interests of the team, he cannot enter into a relationship of cooperation, where each participant must work for goals that will not bring immediate benefits to him. This is where a major conflict may arise.
Our hero will use all available means to interfere with well-coordinated interaction, irritating others. Often, he will also show irritation, but for another reason, that he has to do something for extraneous purposes.
Using a conflict to assert one's own interests
In many cases, a conflicted person uses the confrontation in the team to assert his importance or to realize his goals.
This is just a way of behavior that he uses unconsciously and cannot change it, even if he sets himself such a goal. After all, you can ask a person about something, or you can make him have to do it with the help of conflict and various kinds of manipulations.
Of course, such a person will only cause negativity and will be the first candidate for dismissal.
To understand why a person does not get along in any team, it is necessary not only to understand his attitudes in relationships with others, but also to consider the reasons for their appearance. In many cases, awareness of these reasons will allow you to realize a lot and control your negative manifestations.
