To look in the eye or not? Many people are puzzled over this question. It is believed that they do not look in the eyes only when they are deceiving. And psychologists assure that this is not so, and offer several options for possible reasons why a person may not look into the eyes of another during a conversation.
British scientists conducted a series of experiments and found that in just one second of time, when people look into each other's eyes, they receive the amount of information that they can get in three hours of active communication. This is partly why it is always very difficult to look into the eyes of the interlocutor and the person has to look away.
In addition, it has been proven that when a person constantly looks at another and eye to eye, it is very annoying and makes you nervous. After all, it seems that he is trying to "read" you. And no one wants this.
In some cases, averting your eyes to the side while talking is considered a sign of shyness, which is scientifically supported. With a glance, you can betray your whole attitude to the object, since interest, love, and interest make your eyes shine in a special way. And if a person does not want you to understand his feelings right now (maybe it’s too early?), Then he will not be able to look you in the eyes all the time.
It is also impossible to look into the eyes of the person whose eyes are "boring", heavy. From the very first seconds of communication with such an interlocutor it becomes very uncomfortable, unpleasant and uncomfortable. Such a look presses and makes you avert your eyes to the side.
Self-doubt is another point why people cannot look directly in the eye. If your interlocutor is fingering something in his hands during a conversation, nervously wrinkling a napkin, pulling at his ears, the tip of his nose or hair, then thereby he gives out deep emotional excitement. This means that he will avoid direct eye contact, as he is not sure of his actions. And he does not know what exactly needs to be done now and which look is most appropriate for you to "send".
Of course, there are also those cases when a person does not look into the eyes of the interlocutor simply because the latter is not interesting to him. Then there is no point in exchanging information both verbally and non-verbally. Recognize that boredom is the cause as soon as possible, so as not to have unnecessary conversations. Moreover, it is quite simple to do it. In addition to a lowered gaze, a person will show other signs of disinterest: an emphasized glance at the clock, sometimes yawning, constant interruption of the conversation under the pretext of answering a phone call, etc. In this case, it is better to say goodbye to the interlocutor as soon as possible.
If you want to have no problems with communication, practice not averting your eyes when talking. Then it will be easier for you to both make new friends and build working relationships.
