Is it difficult for you to look someone in the eye? Do you constantly look away during a conversation? Are you confused by another person's gaze and are you nervous if someone tries to make eye contact with you? For many people, such complexes are associated with even stronger phobias: if another person suddenly looks into your eyes, he will certainly see your soul, find out how uncomfortable you are and understand that you are a complete failure. Some people are complex about the opposite problem. A long, studying look, for fear of missing eye contact, can be understood as aggression and overconfidence. Learn to make eye contact correctly.
Instructions
Step 1
Relax. The more you think about it, the more self-conscious you become. Your nervousness can be misinterpreted.
Step 2
Focus on one eye. Throwing a gaze from left to right and back is a manifestation of uncertainty and inattention. Choose the other person's left eye, since the right side of the brain is responsible for emotions, but controls the left side of the body. If you can't concentrate on the eye, try looking at the bridge of the person's nose. You can also look at the other person's eyebrows, which will also create the illusion of looking directly into the eyes.
Step 3
Take it easy. Just look directly into the person's eyes calmly and naturally. Remind yourself constantly that you enjoy talking to this person, and that this is not at all a cause for concern.
Step 4
Listen. If you are completely absorbed in what the interlocutor is telling you, you will forget the problem with your gaze. You just naturally focus your eyes on the speaker's eyes. Remember that maintaining eye contact is a confirmation that you are interested in your conversation. Moreover, by listening carefully, you are showing your respect.
Step 5
Learn to speak with your eyes. For example, don't look away quickly if something else requires your attention. If someone suddenly called you, do not lower your eyes, as if this call saved you from boring conversations. Instead, excuse yourself and answer the call while looking slightly to the side. Do not abruptly interrupt your eye contact, which you have studied so hard.
Step 6
Smile with your eyes. Even the eyes can express a smile and calmness. And this is the most important thing for a pleasant conversation. Hostile gaze or a fake smile tend to make the conversation awkward, and the person will probably try to say goodbye to you as soon as possible.
