For a confident person, looking into the eyes of the interlocutor is natural and does not cause difficulties or inconveniences. But most people feel awkward and try to look away from their partner's direct gaze. So how does one learn to look people in the eye?
Instructions
Step 1
Maintaining eye contact is not how much you look the person in the eye, but how you do it. People usually pay attention to the expression in your eyes. It can be supportive or oppressive, calm or nervous. To learn how to properly look into the eyes of another person, you need to know some features.
Step 2
When talking, do not look at the bridge of the nose of the interlocutor, from this you lose the view of his face, the gaze seems to press on him. The person is extinguished, may close for further contact.
Step 3
You should not also unceremoniously consider, as they say, stare at others. By this you are showing elementary bad manners.
Step 4
Look at the interlocutor with a wide, slightly defocused gaze, moving on to peripheral perception. Your gaze does not highlight a specific point, but, as it were, is slightly smeared over the entire face, and you clearly catch the slightest movements of his muscles.
Step 5
The most difficult thing is, of course, to look a person in the eye and at the same time think about what you are saying. When talking, look at the person not with an appraising look, but supporting him. To do this, mentally take the interlocutor by the shoulder - this will give you a sense of control over the situation.
Step 6
To make your eyes look warmer, imagine that you are stroking a person's hand as you talk. This will calm yourself down and collect your thoughts. For a more direct and intimate communication, imbued with the feelings of the interlocutor. Try to, as it were, try on his eye expression, lip movements, body position. Establish spiritual contact with him - then you will not avert your eyes when talking.
Step 7
When communicating, look into the eyes of the interlocutor for no more than 5 seconds, then smoothly look away and after a while look into the eyes again. Such communication with a glance should take place throughout the entire conversation. You will keep the situation under control, you will notice how certain statements affect the interlocutor, you will be able to change the tactics of negotiation in time.
Step 8
If you feel that the person is not comfortable under your gaze, look away for a while, look at the person's hands, chest area. When the other person has calmed down, you can try to make eye contact again. And after a while you will feel oneness with him, and the conversation will continue in a calm, friendly manner.
