Eyes in personal communication with a person play one of the most important roles, and for someone - a leading one. But it is not always easy to establish close contact with the interlocutor, and every now and then, against our will, is diverted to the side. Finding out the reasons for such a reaction, you can permanently solve this problem.
Instructions
Step 1
Uncertainty and low self-esteem most often make it difficult to look a person directly in the eyes. Moreover, in the absence of self-esteem, a person consciously avoids meeting with glances, because he subconsciously fears that he will be condemned or neglected.
Step 2
Therefore, relax. Remember that no one owes you anything, and you also don’t owe anything to anyone. And all that you can now give your interlocutor is a sincere interest in his words. Feel as natural as possible, no matter how corny, but be yourself. Connecting views is just a detuning of contact, no one will get into your soul and will not do anything bad.
Step 3
Another reason is the presence of deception. Often people do not look into the eyes, because they are not completely pure in their words or actions, and their conscience does not allow them to raise their eyes sometimes even above the floor. The fear of being led out into the open is enormous, and inner shame protects the deceiver.
Step 4
So, sort yourself out. Maybe you are hiding something? If contact with a person is important to you, then the best solution would be to put everything in its place. After all, honesty is the basis of communication, and an open look only emphasizes this openness.
Step 5
Focusing on the other person's speech or the words you are making will help you set the look on their face. Try to remove all the fuss from your thoughts, feelings, feel the clear line of your conversation and fix the figure of the person in front of you.
Step 6
Look at it from the bottom up and gradually raise your gaze to the face. Look around the upper part of the face, as if studying the areas around the eyes, nose, eyelids, bridge of the nose, and then look into the eyes. Now you will not find the connection of gazes frightening, because you have already let this person in, trusted him.
Step 7
There is one more technique, which looks more like an imitation of an "eye to eye" look. Fix your gaze on the bridge of the interlocutor's nose, and, thereby, it will visually seem to him that you are looking straight into his eyes. But who knows, maybe at some point you will still overdo yourself and collide with glances, and the problem itself will finally cease to exist for you.
