What do the words “love yourself” mean? Probably, this is to completely accept yourself, not giving ratings, but just calmly relate to what you have? After all, we are not worried about the fact that a friend's ears are too big or a colleague's eyes are too small?
Now, if we treat ourselves as calmly and accept ourselves as a whole, this will be the first and most important step that will help to love ourselves. After all, not everyone can be handsome and beauties, and the world does not rest on them at all. It rests on other, completely ordinary people.
So, take the first step in order to love yourself. First, let's take a quick test for signs of self-dislike. And let's start doing the opposite. Believe me, the process of falling in love with yourself will go very quickly.
1. We buy ourselves cheap consumer goods in order to save money on ourselves. Meanwhile, expensive things are comfortable, convenient, they improve your mood and help you to treat yourself with respect. Even if the item is too expensive, as it seems to you - count how many cheap items you have already thrown away due to poor appearance? Think about how much you rate yourself and how long ago this has been happening.
2. We overeat constantly. What matters here is what we eat, even if we're not hungry - it's just a way to please ourselves. This means that we do not want to know our true needs and work to satisfy them. Easier to eat a sandwich or cake. And this is disrespect for your body and health. Of course, goodies cannot be completely canceled, but look how often you eat them.
3. We sit down on the last row. This is a direct sign that we are not sure if we are worthy to sit in the front row. This means that in other things we think that we do not deserve more and are afraid to show our worthless personality.
4. We indulge our weaknesses - we mean alcohol and other powerful drugs. Without them, we do not consider ourselves strong, brave, happy, calm, or free. A strong person loves himself, which means he consciously chooses activities, entertainment and relaxation for himself. It can be walks, evening with family, trains, etc. A person who loves himself does not harm himself.
5. We live by strict rules. Does this point seem to contradict the previous one? No, we are talking about distortions and excessive rigidity in relation to oneself. There is no need to torment and exhaust yourself - there should be expediency and a golden mean in everything. And the motive should be: "I take care of myself." And if we simply force ourselves to correspond to some ideas, this is no longer like love and care, this is the desire to drive ourselves into some kind of framework. Do you really need them?
You need to reveal, find, define your true needs and put them above all conventions, stereotypes, and so on. Sometimes it takes courage, honesty, and self-discipline to love yourself, but it's worth it.
Because as soon as we love ourselves, the whole world will love us, we will be more respected by the people around us. And so many new and pleasant things will come into life that we do not even dream of now.
