Do you want your communication to be pleasant, intimate and productive? Build your communication skills. For example, the skill "reflecting feelings" will make your relationship more intimate and aware.
Reflecting feelings is a communication skill that allows you to understand and name your partner's feelings when communicating with him. Feelings here mean the emotional state of the partner.
Informal communication usually revolves around the emotions we experience in relation to the subject of the conversation. If we can understand emotions and talk about them, our communication becomes pleasant and productive.
Why use the skill of reflecting feelings in communication?
- Reflection of feelings improves the relationship between partners, enhances the closeness between them. Talking about feelings brings you closer together. our emotions, experiences are no less important than the content of the conversation.
- Helps to better understand ourselves and each other. It so happens that a person is worried or angry about something, but he does not realize it. At the same time, in conversation, he endlessly talks about the same thing. Helping your partner become aware of feelings by reflecting them will advance you in your communication.
- Reflecting feelings can reduce the emotional intensity of communication. By naming our feelings and feelings of a partner, we contribute to their awareness, as a result of which the intensity of the experience decreases. This is important if you or your partner is hurt, angry, frustrated, or otherwise negatively experienced.
To effectively reflect the feelings of a partner, you must have a large vocabulary in the field of feelings, emotions, states, experiences. This will allow you to better choose your words and help your partner find an accurate definition of his experience.
It is necessary to reflect feelings confidently, concisely, using positive formulations (without the "not" particle). It is also recommended to use introductory words. For example, "how are you feeling now …" - this will allow your partner to correct you if you are wrong in reflecting the feeling.
Do not under any circumstances reflect feelings in a directive manner. When you name your partner's emotions, intonation should be interrogative, not affirmative. Don't dispute your partner's feelings. Instead, acknowledge them, give them space to manifest and a right to exist.
