Our life is built according to certain rules, and if you do not know them, then you can look for answers to not very pleasant questions for a long time. And it is not a fact that the answers will be found quickly. Because of this, dissatisfaction with life will arise, and this is already the first symptom of a failure. If you want to manage your life, you need to behave consciously and rationally. A few simple rules just help with this. Master them, and you will see how everything around you will change.
1. Accept failure as a normal life experience.
Not a single person has lived life serenely, evenly and smoothly - not a single one. And you will not be an exception, believe me. The main thing that you need to understand at the moment of failure is that everything will end someday, will pass, and that you still need to live on. And not just live, but live in striving for the best, towards the goal. Set goals - then you will have something to live for and calmly overcome failures, fall and get up again and move on.
2. Disappointment in people is inevitable.
We often expect from people what they cannot give us, and then we worry that the expectations were not met. Understand that these were your personal expectations, and the person did not "subscribe" to them. And if so, what complaints can there be? Be more tolerant of people, forgive their weaknesses, because it is not known how you will behave in one or another situation that will be difficult for you.
3. To love, not to fall in love.
A person cannot help but love, but this is a very difficult thing. Falling in love is euphoria, and love is giving. Do you feel the difference? In the first case, this is the feeling that “I feel so good with you,” that is, you get pleasure from communication, from dreams and hopes. In the second case, you care about something else. Falling in love quickly passes, but the real feeling remains for life. Why do we need a perishable product?
4. Be able to let go.
True, this is not very simple, because many of us are “mossy owners” by nature. However, it is necessary to give the right to people to live their own lives, without squeezing them into their ideas and into their frames. If you don't dock with someone, let go. If you can't come to terms with something, just let go. It's better for your psyche. The best news here: the one who should be in your life by destiny will be in it. Why do we need the rest?
5. Swim against the current.
There are so many stereotypes in our life that there is nowhere to spit. Because of them, people now live the way they live. The picture is pretty unsightly, whatever one may say. If you want to live differently, don't believe what they believe in, and don't do what they do. It takes a lot of courage to do this, but the result will be amazing.
6. Change and edit your plans more often
This is not about the fact that today I want one thing, and tomorrow another, and generally not about wanting. A plan is the steps to achieve your goal, right? And since life is changing rapidly, in the process of achieving the goal, you gain experience, skills, and so on - the plan will require adjustment. Therefore, do not get attached to him too categorically, be flexible.
7. Everything is temporary.
If we remember our life, we will understand that ten years ago we were different, a year ago we were not the same as now, and even yesterday's “I” is different from the “I” of today. Everything flows and changes, so you should not worry too much about the unpleasant, just as you should not rest on your laurels for too long if luck smiled broadly. Harmony and balance in everything is what is true.
8. You are no worse than others.
Therefore, do not compare yourself with anyone, especially with those who ring around every corner, how wonderful his life is. Instagram is not an indicator of a person's life, but rather a show, a kind of dream. Everyone has enough problems, so solve your own consistently, not counting the money in the pockets of other people and the number of their successes. Focus on your goals, and then people will compare themselves to you, but this is no longer your concern.
9. Forgive yourself.
Forgive yourself in advance for all the mistakes - in advance, then it will be easier for you to accept them. You will act recklessly, badly, stupidly and wisely. So what? Doing something is much better than messing around and not making mistakes. This is life in a greenhouse, and this is not life. The wise say that you are always right, even if you were wrong. Because at that moment you could not act differently - you did not have experience, knowledge or something else. But now you have experience and you understand what you need to know so that next time a mistake does not happen.
10. You are not a dollar to be liked by everyone.
Yes, there will be people who will say that they cannot stand you. You know, this is very funny, because a tricky mechanism works here: a person does not like what is in you in you. He simply does not see it in himself, but in you he sees it as under a magnifying glass. It turns out that he hates himself with such qualities, and not you. Laugh and ignore. And if possible, tell him about it.
11. Say whatever you want to say.
Do not be silent. Otherwise, no one will know what you think, what you feel, what you want and what you dislike. It will be very uncomfortable for you to live like this - people will do everything wrong and wrong. Therefore, take this motto: "speak, all speak!". Express everything in a friendly and calm tone.
12. Grow and develop.
To do this, you need to do what you are afraid to do - even small steps. Constantly read, listen to audio and improve your skills. Find a balance between fun and work (rest is important too). Seek advice from the more experienced and wise. Look for answers to questions.
13. Sow the seeds of good luck.
We know that nothing is accidental. What you did yesterday will echo today or the day after tomorrow. It's just that we, like a magnet, attract everything that we deserve. Therefore, do only what will lead to a positive result, aim at the result. And all will be well.
14. Don't doubt yourself.
Anyone who has achieved a lot knows that the main person in your life is yourself. There is no need to doubt the most important thing. Considering that a person in his entire life uses only 10% of his potential, his abilities, can you imagine how much more inner wealth you have? Just open them every day, comprehending new knowledge and acquiring new skills. Respecting yourself and being confident can help you overcome your weaknesses. What weakness or habit will you overcome today, this week, next month?
15. Take responsibility.
Everyone is busy with their own lives, so you take care of yours. No one is to blame for the way you live today, there is no one else's merit in your achievements - only your merits led you to success. You can consider yourself a victim of circumstances and spend your whole life groaning about the injustice of the world, or you can gradually, step by step, improve your life yourself. This is one of the surest ways.
