Discussing other people, and sometimes gossiping for most people, is not something scary or terrible. Many will say that gossiping is ugly and bad, but for some it can become such a bad habit that it will not be possible to get rid of it right away. The main thing to start with is to try not to get involved in the discussion of other people behind their back and not to use unverified information.
Someone probably noted that after a stormy discussion of another person or gossip, it seems like emptiness is felt in the soul, and sometimes discomfort may appear. There comes a kind of emotional release, people go about their business. Although some immediately run to their acquaintances and try to tell about what they have just learned in order to emotionally relive what they have heard.
Is gossip as safe as it might seem at first glance? What needs to be done to stop discussing, judging, and gossiping?
First of all, you need to understand that no one can ever know for sure why this or that event happened, why a person acted in a given situation this way and not otherwise. All the thoughts and statements of other people are their personal ideas about an event or a person that arose due to their own way of life, thinking, upbringing, education, environment. Therefore, “washing the bones” to your colleagues, bosses, friends or relatives is just an opportunity to throw out your own emotions, express an opinion that may not be relevant to this person. Sometimes it is generally directly related to the one who spreads gossip and begins to discuss others.
To stop discussing and condemning others, you must first turn your attention to yourself, analyze your own shortcomings and actions. And accept the fact that your life is clearly not without sin.
Gradually, by starting to be more attentive to yourself, you will learn to control your emotions, thoughts and statements about other people. You will begin to train a completely different attitude towards loved ones and others.
You will be more tolerant of the actions of people, you will learn not to judge, not to get irritated, you will become wiser and kinder. When this happens, you do not need to discuss others behind their backs and spread gossip.
Another way to reduce the urge to gossip and criticize others is to see if you have a healthy sense of humor.
Consider that making fun of other people is perhaps a manifestation of your inner anger, aggression, and dissatisfaction with life. Not many people know how to joke so that it does not cause in a person the feeling that he is being humiliated.
Before making fun of others, think about why it is so important to you, who your hidden aggression, anger and desire to prove that you are the best is really directed at. More often than not, the person you taunt or judge and gossip about has nothing to do with it.
Almost everything that a person sees around him and what he talks about is only his interpretation of the events taking place in reality. But very often people try to immediately convey to others their view of a person or situation, to condemn their friend, colleague or loved one.
If other people's vices are constantly striking you, start learning to get rid of the pretensions. Immediately remember that you may have the same vices.
Learn to thank, not make complaints. Try to see their best qualities in people. If it is important for you to criticize and condemn, your heart center is completely blocked, you stop seeing something good even in your own life. Therefore, discussing, judging others and gossiping is not as harmless as it might seem.
