Recognizing a person in an hour is essential for recruiting experts. They use these skills in order to match the wishes of the company's management to select the most suitable candidate for a particular position for which certain skills are required. But this skill is quite useful in life, because we often meet new people with whom we have to work or be partners. The faster and better we get to know them, the fewer mistakes we make. Evaluate the form of the interlocutor's speech.
Instructions
Step 1
Pay attention to the type of reference. External reference - following the opinion of others and dependence on it. External - trust in yourself and your opinion. Ask the question: "Do you think you cook well (drive a car, get along with others)?" A person with an external reference will refer to the opinion of others, with an internal one - he will confirm, based on his own feelings. Those who are characterized by external reference are more suitable for performing positions, he is subject to other people's influence and needs advice. People with internal reference are good at positions of internal auditor, financial consultant, ready to defend their point of view at any cost. In life, such people do not compromise and it is difficult for them to prove something.
Step 2
The form of speech "Aspiration - avoidance", when the question: "What do you want from life?" one will demonstrate the desire: to build a house, find a good job, start a family. They are optimists, focused on creation and achievement of the goal. Another will answer the same question: to build a house inexpensively, to find a job close to home and without overwork, a family with a faithful wife and obedient children. This form of speech is avoidance. Such people are always focused on looking for negativity in everything, they tend to check everything repeatedly in order to avoid risks.
Step 3
Another form of speech that will help us learn about a person is called "Process - the result." You will hear two answers to the question: "How do you want to spend your vacation?" A result-oriented person will answer you: "I want to gain impressions and strength in order to relax and then work fruitfully." Someone who is process oriented will say: "I want to see many interesting places, I want to sunbathe and wallow in the sea to relax, because I am very tired." These are people who do routine work well, are meticulous and thorough. Those who are focused on results sometimes go to achieve their goal without following the rules, at any cost.
Step 4
There are still many such nuances by which you can recognize a person in a conversation, so it will not be difficult for a psychologist or recruiting expert to get an idea of your character and abilities within the shortest time. Based on this, you yourself can draw conclusions about whether your new acquaintance will meet your expectations and whether he will cope with the work he undertakes to perform.
