How do you know if a person is flirting? How can you tell the difference between being friendly and flirting? Can you learn to flirt on your own to become more attractive in the eyes of another person?
In one of the lectures of social anthropologist Jean Smith, or, as she calls herself, "flirtologist", 6 indicators of flirting were considered. Jean classified them as "H. O. T. A. P. E." or - "Hot Monkey". This is just an abbreviation of 6 flirting signs in English.
H - Humor. The coincidence in humor between two people is very important, because it brings them very close, especially at the first stages of acquaintance. A sense of humor is essential for differentiating people. If people are sad and not interested in each other, they are unlikely to succeed in the long run. Of course, you can work on this: get to know each other, communicate more. Perhaps someone alone will sooner or later relax and it will become easier and more interesting to talk to him.
0 - Open body language. When flirting, the shoulders should be strictly directed at the interlocutor. Neither sideways nor half-sideways. Straight. Also, men should pay attention to the direction of their partner's legs. If the legs are directed to the side, then the partner does not really want to continue the conversation. "The further our limbs are from the brain, the more difficult it is to control them."
T - (Touch) - Touch. A great way to let the person know that we are interested in him. The shoulder is considered the safest place to touch, the lower you put it in your partner's arms, the more intimate the situation becomes and the more it becomes clear what your intentions are. Touching can take you out of the friend zone.
Also one of the pleasant places to touch is in the upper back between the shoulder blades. It is during social dance that the partner's hand is often there. Therefore, the contact and mutual understanding is getting bigger.
A - (Attention) Attention. The more attention is paid to a person, the more likely it is that he is the object of sympathy. So if you need to show that someone is cute and you want to look after him, you need to do it. But do not forget about the principle of "10 steps" on the bridge. When a person takes 5 steps, and on the way does not meet a partner who should have done 5 of the same, it is worth concluding that you need to turn in the opposite direction.
R - (Proximity) Proximity. Also one example of sympathy: one person stands at the opposite end of the room, and the other, seeing him, begins to walk across the room to him to be near. You always want to be closer to the person you have sympathy for.
E - (Eye contact) Eye contact. Method number 1. With the help of eye contact, you can more than ever recognize whether a person likes or not, how interested there is.
If someone does not reciprocate, this is not scary, because a person is not able to respond with a positive response to everyone who meets on the way. Be active, meet, communicate, in terms of developing yourself as a person and human relationships, building connections, this practice is very useful. The main thing is to like it.
