Not so long ago, on posters from the times of the USSR, men could still be seen with a hammer in their hands. Colorful inscriptions "Love work" and "It's good to have skillful hands" flaunted at every step. Of course, they did not cook borscht, but everyone had to be able to hammer a nail. Now, from numerous advertising brochures, a metrosexual man with a manicure and a flawless tan is looking at us. And he would rather tell you in which salon it is better to get a haircut than explain why this very hammer is needed.
Instructions
Step 1
Looking at this trend, women have a reasonable question: “Have men always been so not independent in everyday life? After all, if once they were different, then there is a faint hope that they will still be able to change again? This means that my favorite unshaven dolt will start ironing shirts on his own and will finally repair the tap."
Step 2
In men, like in our women, the first skills of independence and attitude to everyday life began to form in childhood. The only difference between the sexes is that girls mostly followed the example of their mother, men - from their father. And here everything seems to be logical and should go well. Girls learn the intricacies of cooking, boys - screw the socket. To understand why, after all, most future wives have learned to cook stuffed fish, and most men still do not know how to fix the above-mentioned tap, it is worth referring to the numbers.
Step 3
The statistics are relentless and confirm that there are more early divorces in our country than strong marriages. This means that there are also more children who see their fathers at most once a week. With whom, in this case, would you order the former boys, and now adult men, to take an example to follow? Who can you learn from how to hammer that nail? No answer. There is only a total lack of independence of men in everyday life.
Step 4
Have you ever wondered why women in general learn the basics of housekeeping much faster than men? The answer lies in instinct. Or, more precisely, in the maternal instinct. He is so strong in a developing woman that she, at the genetic level, feels all the secrets of washing, cleaning and cooking. She knows for sure that one day she will become a mother herself, and her little miracle will not be able to do without her, she will need to be fed, washed diapers for the baby, and looked after him. Problems begin when you have to take care of a miracle weighing 80 kilos, which sleeps in your bed. Just look, you are already over thirty, and your mothers still cook you ten signature dishes at a time, worrying that with this work schedule you eat on the fly, and in general, "who goes to a restaurant from your mother?"
Step 5
Remember that men do not grow up, they just change their toys. In their hearts they are eternal children. Be condescending to their everyday dependency, if this is not critical. If not, remember: it is practically impossible to re-educate an adult. However, you can try a creative approach and add a playful moment. When in doubt about the method, remember how children love it. For example, you can decorate a dirty laundry basket with the words "dirty things live here" or "I am your sock, I also want to stay with my soul mate." Having shown imagination, you can cope with the everyday problem of your man.
Step 6
Often we ourselves take too much care of our loved ones and protect them from washing dishes and other matters, playing the role of a caring mother, not a wife. Don't do that. Perhaps your man is not so dependent, but simply follows the path of least resistance. Give him the opportunity to prove himself in everyday life, and maybe he will pleasantly surprise you.
Step 7
If, after all, nothing helps, and your chosen one avoids any household chores and dumps all the housework on you, most likely you are in front of a selfish immature person. It is impossible to remake. Either resign yourself, or break off such a relationship. Remember that part of the day you are a princess, not a Cinderella. And even ponies die from work. Appreciate yourself and forgive sometimes the stronger sex his little weaknesses. He forgives you yours. It's difficult in a relationship without humor. Never scold your man for his lack of independence in the tone of a strict teacher who wants to rein in a naughty student. Respect his lifestyle and approach to life.
