Despondency is considered a sin and interferes with the joy of being, which makes life meaningful and fulfilling. How to find joy in everyday life so that routine does not make human life unbearably boring and devoid of meaning?
Sometimes life seems insipid, boring and hopeless. In our view, hopelessness is monotony, when we do not see any changes in perspective. A dull life seems to be because we do not experience vivid emotions, but boring - since leisure is not filled with activities that can captivate us to self-forgetfulness. In this state, we see the whole world as gray, and ourselves in this world as superfluous.
From such a bleak picture, many fall into despondency, which in the Christian tradition, for example, is considered a sin, since in this way a person voluntarily deprives himself of the joy of being. Meanwhile, the secret of joy lies in the point of view of the environment, or rather, in taking a close look at our own life and shifting attention from what we do not have to what we have. And then most of us will find that there are a dime a dozen reasons for little everyday joys.
Where can you find joy in everyday life? Many people live in anticipation of many things: for example, the fulfillment of a wish, a long-awaited event, any changes in politics or in an everyday situation, in anticipation of money, meetings, letters. Sometimes expectation replaces real life, which passes by, as if not touching a person's consciousness. To regain the ability to feel joy, you need to return to the present moment. What can bring joy in the present?
Oddly enough, these are quite ordinary and sometimes imperceptible things. They are so simple that they may seem trivial. Try to include your attention and listen to your own feelings. In other words, remember that you have the senses, thanks to which you have sight, hearing, taste, touch, smell.
If you are attentive to the sounds around you, you will hear the singing of morning birds, the noise of foliage, the laughter of children outside the window. How long have you heard the sounds of your favorite song or instrumental music? But this can activate emotional memory, especially if pleasant memories are associated with this music or song. If you pay attention to the sounds, you can enjoy even the raindrops drumming on the windows and the roof, snuggling under the covers. Maybe you love to read, but you are too lazy to strain your eyes and want to relax? You can listen to some audiobook. Do not be afraid of sadness - good, sincere sadness will emphasize the charm of joy, brighten the range of emotions experienced.
Treat yourself to something tasty. This can be, for example, a glass of delicious wine, which should not be drunk in one gulp, but savor from the heart, enjoying the taste and nuances. Or a cup of aromatic coffee, the smell and taste of which will give you a feeling of comfort. Any tasty dish can help you feel a little joy of being - from freshly boiled borscht to a salad of fresh vegetables seasoned with pleasantly smelling sunflower oil or sour cream. The main thing is that the prepared dish is fresh and in the process of cooking you think about something good, without "chewing" annoying problems, resentments and complaints in your mind.
Smells can deliver a lot of positive feelings - from freshly cut flowers to vanilla aromas from baked goods, from coffee grinding to your favorite perfume. Do not skimp on fragrant hygiene products, and then morning procedures will bring you a positive charge for the whole day.
Revise your wardrobe. Maybe you should replenish it with a comfortable, skin-friendly, new outfit made of soft natural fabrics? A new outfit can be ordinary home clothes - the main thing is that it is comfortable and comfortable for the skin. Go to bed with a fresh bed, the smell of clean, washed and ironed linen will bring you pleasure and good sleep. Enjoy your vacation without thinking about what you have not completed, what are your plans for tomorrow and what problems await you.
Get a few things that you enjoy looking at. It can be a souvenir, a flower vase, a stylish painting, a cute keychain, an elegant pen, a beautiful notebook. Don't skimp on things that can cheer you up. Flip through beautiful art albums, take yourself for a walk in a picturesque place. And on the weekend, arrange for yourself a trip to nature, sit by the water and relax by the picturesque pond, but there will be this walk alone, together - or a party with a noisy circle of friends, decide for yourself. In general, try to please your eyes with something pleasant, good. Avoid watching dark films, it is better to watch a cute family movie.
Try to share a good mood, and in no case "infect" others with a gloomy mood. Avoid those who feed you unpleasant conversations, angry gossip, sinister or overly sad stories. Try not to think about more than two problems at the same time. Feel life with all five senses, and then the world will cease to be boring and flat, it will acquire full meaning and depth.
And most importantly: do not forget for a moment that real joy does not come from outside, does not depend on the amount of money and the coincidence of circumstances. It lives inside every person, including inside you. You just need to wake her up.
