To maintain peace of mind, psychologists recommend replacing anxiety with positive memories and reflections. There are several attitudes that will help you to relive the stress of everyday adversity much easier.
Instructions
Step 1
"It could have been even worse" If you are in trouble, try to find at least a little excuse to thank fate. For example, your marriage is cracked and divorce is inevitable. Think about what your life could turn into if this event happened in 5 or 10 years. Maybe the fact that the divorce proceedings began right now, and symbolizes the beginning of changes for the better? Such thoughts will help you get back on your feet and gain confidence in yourself.
Step 2
“But I have …” Every day, find time to celebrate your own, albeit not very great, achievements, skills and talents. Be sure to praise yourself for discovering new positive traits. And then no matter what happens, you can always replace a negative thought with a positive one. For example, “Today the boss underestimated my project, but I speak business English the best in the company”, etc.
Step 3
"It's okay" Sometimes the real scale of an embarrassing situation is minimal and looks negative only in your eyes. Perhaps you made a slip during a responsible speech or stumbled out of the blue and are now burning with shame, each time reproaching yourself for awkwardness. But imagine that someone else was at that unfortunate moment in your place. Would you think about his mistake for so long? Unlikely, because you have a lot of your own worries. It turns out that nothing terrible happened, so stop harassing yourself and move on.
Step 4
“Learning hard” If this is your first time faced with a difficult problem, take it as an experience that will definitely come in handy in the future. It doesn't matter whether this unpleasant event will affect your life positively or negatively, the main thing is that in the future you will know how to act to prevent or correct it. In a difficult situation, try to give free rein to emotions, otherwise you will not be able to make at least some decisions and will not take action.
