The rules of good manners prescribe to restrain negative emotions, not to demonstrate them to others. Often in situations that cause anger, irritation, resentment, the desire to cry, you have to be silent, smile tightly, pretend that nothing has happened.
As a result, all unspoken, restrained emotions accumulate in the subconscious, provoking more and more outbursts of negative states. Subconscious "deposits" of negativity program destructive behavior towards oneself and others. Therefore, it is important to get rid of negative emotions in time so as not to harm anyone and "free up" the space inside for joyful sensations.
There are several ways to help get rid of negativity without getting lost at the first one that comes to hand.
- Write negative emotions on paper. At the same time, you can absolutely not be ashamed of expressions and write whatever comes to mind. The paper will endure everything and the soul will become easier. You can write down your feelings in this way in the form of a diary, or in the form of letters to a specific addressee. By the way, this method can be used even if you want to express resentment and pain to someone, but at the same time do not spoil the relationship. First you need to write these feelings down on paper, “remove the foam” from your emotions, and then talk to the person in person.
- Beat a punching bag or pillow. You can even use a large stick or bat if the degree of the accumulated negative is off scale. This is one of the most effective ways to get rid of aggression and anger.
- If you want to express not violent rage, but quietly cry into your pillow, you must definitely do this. It happens that you want to cry, but it does not work, then you can turn on a sad movie or music, thus helping yourself to express the accumulated sadness and longing.
- Loud screaming or growling will help release negative energy. If there is an opportunity to go to a deserted place and shout out to freedom there, you should use it. If this is not possible, you can use a large pillow for this, or a bathroom filled with water.
- Exercising is also a good way to cleanse yourself of negativity and irritation. Negative energy accumulates not only in the subconscious, but also creates muscle blocks and clamps. Sports will help get rid of them.
- Hot bath. If increased irritability and aggressiveness are associated with stress and overexertion, a hot bath or shower is a good way to calm down and relax.
- Negative energy can be danced to drum beats or any music that best suits the mood.
- Another good way is to sing. You can sing not only songs, but also just vowel sounds, syllables, to any motives that come to mind and are associated with release from internal tension.
To get rid of negativity, you can use any of these methods, which is most appropriate for the situation. The main thing is to cleanse the subconscious in time, until the accumulated negative energy begins its destructive effect.
