Negative emotions are not only inherent in human nature, but also necessary. For example, to train the "muscles" of generosity, confidence, understanding, determination, forgiveness, gratitude. It's just that negative emotions should not be allowed to dominate, they must be skillfully managed.
How do they arise
In the emergence of negativity, one should not look for a reason, or rather, confuse a reason and a reason. Often the reason is called some kind of event - rudeness in the store, a deuce of a child, overtime work of her husband. In fact, this is a reason, and the real reason is in you - in your insecurity, in high expectations and fear of loneliness.
Let's start the fight
Negative emotions are fleeting. Most of them are easily dealt with by the subconscious. But sometimes you "get stuck" in the negative - for hours, weeks and even years thinking about the situation that became the reason for it.
Negative emotions are the first reaction to a stimulus. People feel them not only on a spiritual level, but also on a bodily level. During negative emotions, the body changes its normal heart rate, breathing, certain hormones are released, and so on. That is, the body is under stress. And to overcome it, you can resort to breathing exercises. In some situations, physical activity saves. More effort will be required to overcome negative thoughts. After all, it is thoughts that plague you. Sometimes you can retire and shout, beat the pillow, break the dishes, draw a portrait of the offender and throw darts at him. Psychological rituals are effective, during which the negative must first be materialized and then destroyed. For some, it will be a more acceptable option to be distracted, change the environment, pamper yourself with something pleasant.
Guide to action
To overcome negative thoughts and their consequences, it is important to understand a few simple truths.
- Never make decisions under the influence of bad thoughts and negative emotions. Try to regain your composure first and only then act.
- Look for the reasons for what is happening in yourself. Better to take the blame and end the confrontation than to continue to defend their innocence and continue the war.
- Do not give reasons for negative emotions yourself. If someone is annoyed by your mere presence, do not seek favor, it is better to just leave.
