Mom and Dad want to be proud of their baby - this is natural and understandable. But sometimes they consider only the fact that their child is doing well in something as a worthy reason for pride: he began to walk earlier, reads fluently at the age of 4, won a medal at a school Olympiad, or won a sports competition. And if this does not happen, and comparison with the success of other children does not at all indicate that your child is the best? It is not far from here to dissatisfaction with one's child, and to the recognition of one's own pedagogical incompetence. It is time to stop this practice of comparison to avoid future problems.
Instructions
Step 1
Of course, every parent loves their child. But in order for the child to grow and develop harmoniously, in addition to love, it is also necessary to accept the child by the parents. Think, because you love him not because he can do something, or because of his good looks, for outstanding talents, or because he helps you with household chores. It's just that he is your son or your daughter, and he is dear to you as he is. He has his own characteristics, he is unique, and there is no other such baby. You would not agree to replace him with another? Accept your child with all his features, advantages and disadvantages, sincerely rejoice in him.
Step 2
Try to understand and appreciate what your child is like. Watch him, his behavior, how his character is formed. Take into account the peculiarities of temperament, be sensitive to his desires, interests and aspirations at every stage of development. What, for example, is natural for a sanguine baby, will be unusual for a melancholic. The individual characteristics of your baby are the starting point for their development.
Step 3
Compare the child only with himself and be proud of his success. Remember that only yesterday he was unsteadily on his legs, and today he is already skipping; recently he just got acquainted with the letters, and now he reads books himself! Do not forget to celebrate aloud every success of your offspring: let him know that parents see his achievements and are happy with them - this way you will help to form an adequate self-esteem of the growing person.
Step 4
Try not to take seriously the comments of acquaintances, friends and others, perhaps completely outsiders, about the success and abilities of your child. Ultimately, their assessment cannot be objective: after all, they do not know your baby as well as you. The only exception to this rule will be the advice of specialists (psychologists, doctors, teachers). It is important to listen to them very carefully in order to help the child overcome the difficulties that are natural in the life of every person. By the way, the opinion of professionals, most likely, will not bear a negative connotation, because their task is, together with their parents, to objectively assess the existing problem and find ways to solve it.
Step 5
Try to get rid of the "what people will say" fear. In the end, only you are responsible for your child, for his health, development and well-being. And those who are inclined to discuss other people's actions are unlikely to be able to provide you with real help in matters of upbringing and development, or even give good advice. So is it worth worrying about how they will appreciate your child's strengths and weaknesses, and your parenting methods?
